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Sezii · Jun 3, 2012, 03:54 PM

Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over a yr now and his drive is through the roof but mine just isn't there we moved inyo a one bedroom apt in dec of 2011 and about a couple monthso later is when my drive decreased

Sezii · Jun 3, 2012, 04:29 PM

I was wondering if any one has haft this same issue or if up have any advise for how I can get my drive back

Cat1864 · Jun 5, 2012, 07:17 AM

Sezii, there can be a lot of reasons for decreased sex drive. If the decrease is sudden or recent, then you might want to start with a check up. Rule out any health issues. Also if you are on any medications including a hormonal birth control method, you might want to talk to your doctor or pharmacist about drug interactions (with each other and different food/drinks) and side-affects.

If you are healthy and no medication issues, look at what else in your life has changed. You are now living together and the stresses in the relationship will have changed. Are you both still communicating well and spending non-sexually intimate time together? Are there habits or other small things distracting you from wanting or being able to be interested in sex? Are you feeling pressured to be 'ready' for sex just because you now live together and it feels like sex should be expected?

These are a few of the things that can cause issues. Often problems in the bedroom are related to issues in other aspects of the relationship and life. Looking at the larger picture and discussing the changes in your lives with your partner may help you narrow down what is bothering you. It could even be a normal slow down that a lot of people go through with normal fluctuations in hormones.

If you can, try relaxing and try sharing affection and intimacy without expecting sexual intercourse. Letting the pressure and stress dissipate can sometimes do more to reset the libido than anything else.

Good luck.

Sezii · Jun 5, 2012, 03:59 PM

Thank you and yes I talked to my doctor and nothing in the health area is wrong but I do stress easily over house related issues like bills and cleaning me and, my boyfriend talk about EVERYTHING so I would say communication is very strong do you have any destressing tips I do have a 4 yr old daughter so time for just me is rarely an option