[tearstodiamonds]

Moved to its own question.

I and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half and we have been living together for about a year. The first couple of months that we were together, everything were great. Slowly, he started withdrawing all his affection. Day after day he comes home from work and never kisses me hello and night after night he falls asleep without ever holding me. I have not felt his arms around me for over a year. He does not know if he loves me. I do absolutely everything for him, not to be loved, but because I love him. I don't require constant displays of affection, but all this makes me feel cold and lonely. We talk about being together forever, but I don't know if I can stand outside his heart for that long. Does anyone know why this could be happening, am I doing something wrong? Please help...

Ps. He is rarely ever intimate with me anymore. It feels like we're just really good friends...

[A_Nice_Guy_26]

Wow, when I read this post, it was like looking into a mirror. I'm experiencing the same thing with my girlfriend. I'm in the same position as you except for the living together part but everything else is the same. And for me, I have been experiencing this with her for I think over a year now so far. I'm not sure of an answer for you though about why this happening but I do know how you feel, because I'm experiencing the same thing if it helps any.

[tearstodiamonds]

Hi Nice Guy,

Firstly, I would like to thank you for your response. I'm sorry that you are experiencing the same situation and feeling the same pain :( I was wondering if you have ever talked to your girlfriend about it and if she has ever tried to explain... Also, I really hope that things will be better in your relationship soon and that you at least have friends that you can talk to about it. I have no one to talk to about this so I am trying to cope with it on my own.

Take good care,

tearstodiamonds

[mmresd]

To both of you. You need to talk to your significant other, see what the problems are. However, be expecting the worst, just like anything else, love and affection for another person can die, and when it does, it normally happens to one person before the other. Maybe the excitement of being together is gone and now the relationship is getting to its "dull" part. Normally at this stage, you were supposed to have created such a big bond that you go into the marriage-like part of the relationship. If you have failed to do this, then the relationship will start going downhill. It is better to cut things off, than to continue making both of your lives miserable.