[adam512]

Hello to all:
I had a heated argument with a girlfriend over a week ago. I thought we had built a trust with each other in the past eight months. She has been hurt in the past with guys cheating on her, but she has stuck with them until she could not take it anymore. With us, I was under the impression that she would not let me get too close to her because of her past. Last weekend, during our discussion, she let me know that she thought I had too many women friends and by what I got out of it, she obviously thinks I sleep with them as well. So stupid me, I reminded her that I wasn't the one that had a one night stand with an ex boyfriend last summer so I guess I implied that she is a whore. A couple of days later, I wrote her an email apologizing for my behavior, but I haven't heard from her. With all the posts I've seen on here, should I just let this one go or wait until she is ready to talk to me again.. or when will that be?

[anita99]

Have you tried calling her? If she doesn't pick up, then drop her a text saying you're sorry and you want to work things through, if she's happy to do so. If not, you're still sorry.

It would be better to talk to her in person than on the phone, so perhaps ask her to meet you somewhere.

Don't call/text her more than once. In time she will come back if she wants to. If she doesn't come back, she's not worth fighting for.

[Kahani Punjab]

Adam 512,

First of all, I welcome you to this beautiful and wonderful site.
Never repent in your life, that is what I want you to remember. No doubt, truth is bitter, but you said it all extempore and it was all unintentional, and if she is one, for you, she will surely come back, once she realises that you are not the person, who speaks to hurt someone, as you apologized soon after you uttered these words. There can be many interpretations of her silence. She might be herself feeling little, or shy or something. If so, she will soon break the silence, just wait and leave her a text message or a scrap on orkut or a post on Facebook. If she picks your phone, tell her that you never intended to hurt her. She must be mature enough to understand it all. Do not be too possessive. The world is big and vast. Moreover, miracles do happen. Maybe just now you get ring from her, or a message or an sms, or a scrap or a post. Hope sustains life, dear. Good luck!

[JudyKayTee]

I don't think she's feeling little or shy - he threw her past in her face during what wasn't even a bitter argument (not that that's an excuse for his behavior).

As far as repenting realize we come from vastly different cultures. In the US apologizing, feeling sorry (repenting), making amends is what people do when they've hurt other people. To advise someone to never repent for anything in life is really taking it to the extreme But, as I said, apparently different cultures.

And to the OP - I'd let her cool down. I would send a note, not a call, definitely not a text, apologizing, saying you were wrong, it will never happen again.

She may very well keep walking away - no one likes to confide something from his/her past only to have it thrown into his/her face at some point in time.

[Homegirl 50]

What you did was a bit rude. You sent and email saying you are sorry. When she cools off she may come back, but maybe she won't. Take this as a lesson learned. When someone shares something with you, it is not cool to throw it back in their face