[ALYNCH]

I've been with this girl for about one year. I know for a fact that when guys call or text her, if she doesn't want anything to do with that person, she will just ignore them and never return the calls. For me, we had a heated argument one night and we broke up. I waited a couple of days and text her again just to talk to her and she came back with "don't text me again or I'll file a restraining order". That basically did it for me. She mentioned before that she loves me and "why do i treat her so well" and "I've never had anyone treat me like you do". Her biggest complaint, and one reason she doesn't really want to commit to me, is that she thinks I'm alone with a lot of single women, but they're just sfriends. I don't sleep around with anyone else. She is around guys as well and I trust her. She started telling she loves me about two months ago and I reciprocated. Now, with the threat of a restraining order, I'm afraid to get in contact with her. Why would she tell me that and ignore the other guys that she just didn't want anything to do with. Any opinion would be greatly appreciated... if anything just to help me understand what I should do or should I just let her go for good. I want her back and we have a lot of good times together, but this is not the first time she has told me that I know too many women.

[odinn7]

Save yourself the pain and let her go. She sounds like a headcase anyway. To threaten a restraining order right off the bat like that isn't normal by any means. Unless of course, there's more to this that you're not telling us.

[ALYNCH]

That about sums it up. We've had our disagreements, but nothing threatening. I've never so much as push her or even threaten her physically and I've never been mentally abusive. I'm just not that type of a person. The discussion we had the night we broke up was about us dating and where it was heading. She does work a lot of hours and I may see her about once or twice a week, but that was fine with me. I figured we wouldn't get sick of each other that way. She has been hurt before in the past with guys cheating on her, but even then, she always gave them second and third chances. She has mentioned to me over and over again that no one has ever treated her as well as I have. I've never cheated on her even though I am around women here and there, but those are just friends. When I mentioned about us moving forward, that's when she flipped her handle. Maybe I thought she was just tired from working too much, but now it has me thinking. I just can't figure out why she would threaten me like that. If she didn't want to speak to me anymore, she could just ignore me. I'm thinking maybe it's a way for her to hurt me, she thinks.

[odinn7]

She seems angry and that does seem like a way to hurt you. Sorry this happened but you'll be OK. Just give it time.

[Homegirl 50]

I would leave her alone. She does not sound stable