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    letitbe1111 Posts: 60, Reputation: 5
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    May 19, 2012, 06:32 PM
    Is he lying?
    I've been dating someone for two months and for the first time in a very long time, I'm really happy. We've been seeing each other a couple times each week and we chat by phone or text a couple of times a week.

    Last weekend, I was surprised that he was really vague about his plans for the week, but since we went out with his friends that week, I figured we were okay. On Thursday he tells me he has made plans with his guy friends on Friday and Saturday. I was disappointed that he didn't set aside a weekend night for me. Then on Sunday he wanted me to come to his place. I couldn't.

    This week, he came over on Thursday and he asked me out for Saturday. Then he called the next day saying he couldn't get together on Saturday because his grandmother's friend was very ill and he had to drive her to see her several hours away. The story seemed fake. Also, his cousin is in town and staying with him for a bachelor weekend. He says that the bachelor party happened on Friday and so his cousin is going with him to take his grandmother.

    Does anyone else think this story sounds far fetched? The thing is, if he wanted to hang out with his cousin I would be fine with it! I feel like I'm being lied to.
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    May 19, 2012, 06:48 PM
    He is going to he party most likely and either because of things you have said in the past, or because of his past girl friends, he most likely feels you would not just accept him going out to this.

    That is my guess
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    May 19, 2012, 06:49 PM
    I don't know. Give it some time. If things are still strange the following week, talk to him. Maybe he is not as interested.
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    May 20, 2012, 09:15 AM
    After two months, you owe him no explanations, and he owes you no explanations (or excuses).

    The relationship is not yet exclusive to the point where he's dropping his (likely) regular routine with the guys.

    When and if you are a priority in his life, and he is a priority in yours, and both of you know each other well enough to say to each other that you are boyfriend and girlfriend and are trying for a long term relationship together, that would be the time to question his behaviour if you are always second base.

    But, until you are ready to invest, go slowly, and allow him time and space. For all you know, he may be thinking (them- friends) or you (no friends). That too says much about how early a stage this relationship is in.

    I'd give him time.

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