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    Apr 27, 2012, 02:16 AM
    What should I do in this situation?
    Me and my boyfriend are in relationship fr last 5 years... we came to do Masters after completing undergrad studies and now after completing masters,we talked with our parents and my parents have agreed but his parents are still reluctant abut this relationship... we both are abroad looking for job since we completed our studies... and now my boyfriend has got job but with contract of 3 years... but I have not... and there are high chances that I will not get job here and will have to go back to india... my boyfriend is happy that he got job and he has to sign a contract of 3 yrs... but what abut our relation then,? We were thinking of getting married next yr but now how will that be e possible?. if he stays here and I go back to look for job... and if marriage thing happens next yr I would have to leave my job and come back here... without job... he doesn't care fr that... after studying so much is it fair enough that I sit home as housewife? Why he didn't care fr that? And just rejected this offer? We could have search job together in india and lived happily but why is he doing all this? Does he nt care fr our relationship? I'm 27 now and my parents are also worried about my marriage and now when things started working he is going away... I dono what he wants and why all this is happening >.. please give me sume suggestions on this..
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    Apr 27, 2012, 04:41 AM
    Someone has to adjust... since he has got a job abroadthat would be more lucrative if you are thinking of shareing a future together... sacrifices are important in every relationship,, remember that you are the jobless one... you neither have a job in your country or abroad... if your boyfriend truly loves you and is willing to support you should get married to him and shift... because you don't have a job now doesn't mean ull end up being a housewife... who knows you might end up with a better deal abroad...
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    Apr 27, 2012, 06:28 AM
    Hi .thanks for your answer... his parents are not fully ready for our marriage and they want to talk with him personally when he comes home... plus this all procedure will take more than a year and he is saying that he has no problem if I stay in india fr 2 yrs and wait fr him and after 2 yrs we will marry.. do you think this is a good idea///i really care for this because I don't know how I'm going to stay so far fr such a long time... but looks like he doesn't care much reg this... I dono why he's not sad abut this... nw.. :(
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    Apr 27, 2012, 07:46 AM
    Try asking him to push for an early wedding... dont sound desperate or needy... just tell him that you d rather not stay apart for so long... ask him to work something out so that you are also happy with the final plan... long distance relationships are so difficult to maintain... trust me I know this from personal experience... anyhow you will only get a clear picture after this guy has that talk to his parents...
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