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traste8 · Apr 2, 2012, 10:11 AM

So I met a guy that is different... but at the beginning he started texting and calling and vice versa... real quick he asked me to be his girlfriend, and he was different, so was his personality. Obviously all is confusing, I am not used to someone being the way he was, sweet, caring and all of sudden it all went gray.

One day he had to work overtime and he didn't text me once, so I went spiral.. telling him, he was acting up, changing etc,
That night I didn't see him but he told me he was tired, what was I to tell him?
Following day, I went on my day and text him normal, it took him three hours to answer, then I just told him that it wasn't working for me.

I was really not understanding.

Then it follow with him insulting me telling me I was needy, not understanding and that I was suffocating him, that he couldn't be with someone so demanding... so I got pissed off and told him bye...

Hours later, I come to realize that he was right, I was suffocating him, I felt bad, so I started texting him and calling him... to apologize...

See the situation is that I was in a relationship for a few years and he was always available, funny thing, I wouldn't even call my ex or text him, when we broke up it was all good, we are still friends. Now this guy I have to see him everyday, I don't know how am I going to look at him @ all. I really like him and he was right, I have texted him and call him multiple times\

Still no answer, maybe I should give him some time and then give a letter, I suck when I have conversations because I get nervous and don't know what to say.

I am so confused, I am afraid this is something that will always happen to me... me being needy, maybe I need some time alone.

Recommendations? I just want to tell him that I am really sorry and that I was a jerk and I am really sorry, that I am not as negative as he thinks. Should I try approaching him when I see him again, even though he hasn't answered none of my 20 texts

jukiera · Apr 2, 2012, 10:24 AM

Give it some time, then approach him. He can't ignore what's right in front of him

traste8 · Apr 2, 2012, 10:27 AM

Last text I told him I would leave him alone... and I want to keep my word, but how do I do that when I see him everyday, and I know I was a jerk? If I have to I will but I know it will be plain hard

Originally Posted by jukiera

Give it some time, then approach him. He can't ignore what's right in front of him

Wondergirl · Apr 2, 2012, 10:33 AM

Stop with the obsessive texting and neediness! From now forward, just carry on and treat him like the frosting on your cupcake of life. The poor guy has his plate full with school or work and various projects and other stuff. Be the fun and interesting person you are and relax! He must feel good about you and comfortable with you that he doesn't think he has to obsessively text you to keep you interested.

traste8 · Apr 2, 2012, 10:35 AM

He broke up with me... so I can't be no frosting on cupcake

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Stop with the obsessive texting and neediness! From now forward, just carry on and treat him like the frosting on your cupcake of life. The poor guy has his plate full with school or work and various projects and other stuff. Be the fun and interesting person you are and relax! He must feel good about you and comfortable with you that he doesn't think he has to obsessively text you to keep you interested.

Wondergirl · Apr 2, 2012, 10:37 AM

Let things rest and just be objectively friendly when you see him.

traste8 · Apr 2, 2012, 10:43 AM

I know he expects me to go sprial when I see him but I will keep my cool... or try.. I wrote him a letter explaining everything, should I give it to him?

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Let things rest and just be objectively friendly when you see him.

Wondergirl · Apr 2, 2012, 10:54 AM

No, don't give it to him.

traste8 · Apr 2, 2012, 10:58 AM

Elaborate, why?

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

No, don't give it to him.

Wondergirl · Apr 2, 2012, 11:03 AM

Do you know how males think? I'm betting a dozen Dunkin' Donuts he won't read whatever you wrote or, if he does, will toss it into the nearest trash basket. Guys do not do well with words. They judge actions, not words. (Girls are the ones hung up on words--or no words spoken.)

Do you know what he likes? -- sports teams, car make and model, favorite food?

traste8 · Apr 2, 2012, 11:08 AM

Somewhat, his kind of music... I do know, why? I know he is into bikes

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Do you know how males think? I'm betting a dozen Dunkin' Donuts he won't read whatever you wrote or, if he does, will toss it into the nearest trash basket. Guys do not do well with words. They judge actions, not words. (Girls are the ones hung up on words--or no words spoken.)

Do you know what he likes? -- sports teams, car make and model, favorite food?

Wondergirl · Apr 2, 2012, 11:10 AM

When you see him and if you say anything to him, stick to the real and the concrete, not his feelings or yours either. Talk about what he likes.

jukiera · Apr 10, 2012, 07:07 AM

I think you should give it to him. Bu still keep your cool and be nice and friendly, also try hanging out with some of your friends or family more.

traste8 · Apr 10, 2012, 08:46 AM

That's done and over with, he is d*ck... the first time I messed up but then I realize he was looking to find an excuse to fight every weekend.. what a douche... I am done and over with him... idiots that want to play with women, don't need to apply ;)

mmresd · Apr 10, 2012, 10:26 AM

You need to work out your issues by yourself before you pusue any type of relationship with someone. It is very annoying to get those massive texts and calls especially when you have been WORKING. Calm down. Let this guy go, it doesn't sound like he wants anything with you.