[missyb87]

My boyfriend and I shared a wonderful relationship together, and not once during our relationship did we have any major issues. In fact, more than anything he was completely in awe of me, or so I thought. Suddenly after some time my boyfriend became quite serious about our relationship and began speaking to his parents about it. When they found out that he wanted to take the next step, they flipped out and told him they wouldn't approve unless I went back to school and finished off my degree. My boyfriend knew all along that I had no current plans of going back to school after getting my diploma because I wanted to do other things in my life. I tried explaining to him and at first he agreed with me, saying that his parents had no right in making his life decisions and that they were simply acting stupid. After two weeks he just one day changed his mind and texted me saying that we were both over. Of course, he didn't admit that the reason was his parents, but I know they changed his mind. It's been two months since we've broken up, and he has not once called or emailed me. In fact, it hadn't even been a week since we broke up and I saw his profile on dating websites. I'm completely heart broken, and oddly enough still not able to get over him. In my heart I still love him, and still question myself about what was so wrong about me? I want to get out of this and move on... I'm just not able too.. I can't hate him, because I still love him.

[DaniCalifornia]

Think about this. His parents are always going to be there. How would you be able to cope being part of a family that won't accept you, and that influence him that much? It's a worse feeling than the content feeling you'll have when you ARE over him, that's for sure.

You don't need to hate him, you just need to think of all the negatives about the relationship and move on.

x Dani

[redhed35]

Hmm, I wonder do momma and pappa know he's on a dating site, maybe its been approved by them!

There's nothing wrong with you, its him! Its going to be difficult for him to find a women his parents totally approve off, really you should feel sorry for him.

Pick up the pieces, throw yourself into your life, and never dance to anyone else's tune.

[Stellaw]

It's not his parents, it's his fault and he's the only one to blame for leaving you.
If crying makes you feel better then go ahead. Go out with your friends or relatives.. there are plenty if fishes in the sea, no doubt you can find someone. Enjoy your life as a bachelor.

[Fr_Chuck]

I agree with Stellaw, it is completely his fault, his parents could hate you, but if he wanted to be with you bad enough he would have. If he really loved you, nothing would stop him from being around you.

So is he or both of you from a culture or religion that required parents to approve of a partner. Do parents do arranged marriages?

[JudyKayTee]

I'd like to know the religion and culture before I go any farther -

[missyb87]

We both come from South Asian backgrounds (INDIAN). I was born and raised in Canada, and my parents are very modern. Whether I want to be with someone or not has always been completely my choice. He was born and raised in India but moved down to USA about ten years ago. He claimed his parents were quite modern, but after dealing with them, I really don't think that was the case.

[divineangel82]

I understand what u say. I am Indian too and my boyfriend also. Apparently am divorced which he said didn't matter to him but his parents totally dissaproved of me without even meeting me. I am heartbroken myself, and can't get to hate jhim. But I agree that if he is not strong enuff for you, the same as my ex, else we would still have them in our lives. Never go where you are not appreciated for who YOU are.. they will never value yopu for the rest of their lives. And we don't need these momma's boys do we? My break up happened 2 days ago and am still so depressed.