[lhynskie]

I been with my boyfriend for 4 years,I'm a pinay and he is Australian. He is going back and forth to be with me, and we were fine with that. We had no problem, no worries about cheating, but lately he was acting really weird, like he was saying he wanted a space, and I was wondering why.

I just ignored that I thought he was just stressed and depressed, but then I found out he was having an affair with a girl he met online on his game. When I found out about it, I made an account, and talk to that girl. The girl said she will never talk to my boyfriend again, so I spoke to my boyfriend, and told him lets start again like nothing happened.

But it's hard because I'm crying every time I think about what he did to me. All the pain he gave me that he wanted to break up with me, because of that girl he never met yet. Help what should I do?

[da_one]

Obviously he hasn't been honest with you... ask yourself, "Will he ever start being honest with me, or will he just keep hiding things behind my back? Also ask yourself if you might be settling. It may be hard to answer these questions but the answers you come up with may help you make a decision.

[talaniman]

I would cry to if I was lied to, and cheated on and still with the person. Not only does regaining trust take time, but getting over feelings of shock, and betrayal takes a long time.

I think you are holding on at the expense of regaining control over your shock and hurt, and your ability to see that you haven't let your own dust settle.

Give yourself the benefit of some time away from the relationship. Then see how you feel. Call it crying time, but you obviously NEED it.

[xoxocjc]

If he wants to break up with you because of a girl he met on a game that he has never met yet then you should just leave him. Because he is pathetic and doesn't realize what a good girl he already has in his REAL life. He will regret losing you.