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roc8g · Feb 25, 2012, 02:17 PM

I been with my girl friend for 4 months, and been staying at her house. I have my own house too. She has two small kids 2, and 3, and she says that she need to spend more time with them. She said she loves me, and wants to be with me forever, and want things to work out. She said she still wants to see me every day but it would be good if I always don't stay the night at her house.

I trying to figure out is she trying to back out of this relationship with me, or am I being to hard on my feelings for her. I just like being around her.

Right now she is going through a hard time with not working, and try to go to school still, and not being able to have the kids at day care, I have offered to pay, and help her out with these things too. What should I do?

Alty · Feb 25, 2012, 02:25 PM

You should give her and the kids some space.

This is a new relationship, and I know that you want to spend every moment you can with her, but she's a mom first, and your presence may be taking away from that aspect of her life.

Her kids need her too. They're still very young, and they're a lot of work. But they need quality time with mommy, without having you around.

I'm married and we have 2 kids, but we still need to have time apart sometimes.

Accept that her kids do and always will come first.

Homegirl 50 · Feb 25, 2012, 03:39 PM

Her kids come first. You should do as she ask.
Four months in, this is a new relationship. Perhaps you have moved too fast, staying with someone after 4 months is really soon.
She is the mother of small kids and they should be her priority.

jnxy1 · Mar 14, 2012, 01:56 PM

Give her the space she desires if she needs night time to clear her head let her.send her nice little text messages that your thinking of her or you're here for her something to make her smile.just give her the space and to let her not feel suffocated

mmresd · Mar 14, 2012, 03:09 PM

You are moving too fast, if she was living alone with her kids, you have just added yourself to the picture. Moving in with someone takes some time, you are in a way forcing her to live with you. Back out NOW, before you overwhelm her and she is forced to ends things with you.

talaniman · Mar 14, 2012, 05:07 PM

Back off, and slow down as she says. She has kids, and needs a break, and not ready for that live in situation. That seems to be smothering her, and its TOO MUCH, TOO FAST, and you will soon CRASH,AND BURN!!