[seekingsanity]

Ok... So my girlfriend and I have just split, she has a 3 year old (not mine) BUT we have been together since he was 6 months. I was da da, he Is my best friend. She is also my love and best friend.

Like a lot of couples there are rough times. We have gone through a few, always came through. Jan- Feb has proved to be bad months for us. Last year we broke up same time.

I have moved all my stuff out of the house and have been out for a week. Let me add I didn't want to, but she has expressed that we are done, and nothing can change that. I don't make her happy, despite all the great times we have had.
I am devastated right now, I feel like there is a hole in my chest, I have a hard time breathing. I miss them so much and have been beating myself up, what could I have done to have this happen at all?

I went from having a beautiful step son, who I taught to walk, say his first word, first everything, I was right there beside him, and a woman who inspired me to do so much, to sleeping in an empty apartment.

I admit I have been an a$$ , stressed about money due to lack of hours at work, been really sick, and has been some trying times on all our emotions, but I can't accept that we are done, can't be, not after everything we have been through.

I find myself panicing, wanting to call, and I have called, and texted, and nothing back. It's a lot to handle.

What do I do, how can I fix this? Is it fixable? I'm losing my mind!

[londonmale]

So sorry that you are feeling such heartache, it's so sad when this happens, but unfortunately it's all part of life. If you have done everything you think you can to win her back, then the only thing you can do is ride it out, as hard as it is. If she is not replying to you, then don't try contact anymore, resist the temptation, you need to give her space, more importantly you need your own. It will get better in time and the heartache will fade. You need to spend time with family/friends, make sure you have people around you and make sure you keep as busy as possible. I hope everything works out for soon. Take care, keep busy and stay positive.

[talaniman]

Leave her alone and take this time to let the dust settle and the shock to wear off, and get YOURSELF under control, and better organised. Break ups suck, especially when you get attached to a child. But give this some time and distance to get your act together, and maybe you get to be a male figure later.

[seekingsanity]

Thanks! Ya I have been keeping myself busy. The panic attacks have been fewer and farther apart. Still hurts but u feel better. I have stopped with the contact, she will message me randomly about what went wrong and seems to be going out her way to make me feel bad. Wish she could understand what a relationship is all about, but until then, no contact, as ****ty as it is to ignore the woman I love. It's for the better