[t00w00t]

Hey guys my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 19 months. I always knew that her ex boyfriend was trying to contact her ever since we started dating and she's always ignored him until this past winter break. By the way her ex boyfriend cheated on her that's why they didn't talk.

She told me that her ex text but I asked her if she texted him back and she agreed. I trust my girlfriend but I don't trust his intentions. I remember she told me the same ex helped her break up with her previous boyfriend so of course I feel uneasy about this situation.

We've been together for almost 19 months. Whys she talking to him all the sudden? And they talk every day. She tries not to reply to him when I'm there but when I'm not I know she texts back.
I confronted her about it and she says they're nothing but friends and I caught her saying she missed him too but she said cause they used to be good friends.

I don't know what to believe honestly lol
Any advice?

[talaniman]

You know guy, sometimes when we are so in love and trusting, we go along with a lot of things we don't like at all because we are afraid of losing the one we love. Forget that fear for a while, and tell your girl a friendship with an ex is unacceptable and love and trust has nothing to do with it. Its really simple when you get over the fear of losing your love, you will decide what's good behavior, what's bad, and reject the bad behavior.

You seem to be still talking, and that's good... maybe, but hopefully you can convince her to cut the contact. Ask her would she be okay with you texting, and talking to YOUR ex? If she doesn't care, watch out buddy! If she says she wouldn't like it, but doesn't make adjustments, you have little choice but to keep some dignity, and self respect, and remove yourself from an unacceptable situation. If she hides it after saying she will not text or talk to him... RUN, NOW!

Sorry guy but if your love cannot respect you, then respect yourself, and do the right things for you. Its not love when you put them above your own needs, especially when it comes to exes.

Most would rather worry about it and accept bad behavior than walk away from it, but when you accept it, its likely to get worse.

Talaniman Rules, Leave people with exes in there lives alone.

I would be pissed off she still would be messing with the ex in the first place, whether it was behind my back or in my face, so make sure she knows how you feel about it. No ultimatums either. A couple that cannot work together through honest communications to resolve their issues to the benefit of them both, won't last any way.

[Rice_Bunny8823]

This sucks :/ But I can tell that you are a really trusting person and I think that she knows this but she shouldn't be hiding the fact that she wants to text him in front of you. Accept that she once had feelings for him not just of love but of friendship, she will probably miss him and feel guilty about that. Just tell her that you trust her and you know she won't cheat on you and don't ever feel depressed that she's texting him. Remember she's dating YOU not him! He lost his chance and I know that if she has pride she will not get back together with a cheater. If you are REALLY worried you can tell her this and ask if you and him could talk (JUST talk lol!)Set him straight! Tell him that you're her boyfriend and that he shouldn't get any ideas! Lol sorry for the length :/ I hope I helped!