[Mandi23]

My husband can be very mean and rude to any one who "does him wrong". It could be the way someone looks at him or someone asking him a stupid question. The thing is I don't know whether to take some of the things he says lightly or seriously. Like, when he makes threats about if he had to die he would take as many people out with him or that he will tear the house up because he feels like it. He can be verbally abusive and talks about killing people at his job because they are so stupid to him. The littlest thing can set him off and it scares me. We have a 5 month old and a 3 yr old in the house and when my 3 yr old cries, he yells at her to stop. When my 5 month old cries he acts like he is going crazy. I'm worried that he doesn't have the patience for kids. Sometimes he admits it but he tells me how much he loves them. He is controlling, always wanting things his way. He doesn't think he should help out with the kids or the house because he stands on his feet for 8-9 hours a day being a cashier. When I ask him to help with something he reacts like I just slapped him in the face! He is lazy but when I decide to sit on the couch I am accused of being lazy. For example, this morning he had an hour before he left for work and he went and woke the kids up and then went to the kitchen and makes himself a bowl of cereal, yelling at me for not being fast enough for not making him some cinnamon rolls and for not feeding our son a bottle roght away and that I was a bad mom and disgusting for making our son starve while I got my 3 yr old cleaned up. He expects me to do everything for hom and the kids, whils do the errands and clean the house and be his secretary/ slave! Does anyone have any similar stories? And what do I do? I know his behavior is wrong! What do I need to do?

[farfellow]

Sour disposition... I think you've been doing all the things he want and likes but forgets about what concerns you... stand your ground because it looks like he acts like a brat.