[Liss85]

I have a 2 year old daughter, and recently found out that my boyfriend cheated on me with a crazy woman, who now has a 1 year old son with him. I was devastated but we slept together here, and there and now I just found out I am pregnant. I just want to move on with my life. He says he loves me but he's not in love with me.

If I do decide to have the baby, we will just get married and move in together. Should
I have this 2nd baby, or not, and just move on without him?

[talaniman]

Having the second child makes no difference. Just don't move in with, or marry the guy. He may be a baby daddy yet again, but he is hardly husband material, or even loyal to you, nor in love with you.

Having his child didn't change that before, nor will having yet another make him a better husband. I don't really believe in abortion, but its your decision to make.

[Fr_Chuck]

And who knows how many other babies he has out there.

You don't marry or move in with him just because you are having his baby. Is he paying you child support on the first child? Have you even filed for support, or does he come by and say he loves you and talks you out of support every time you start?

But you file for child support and move on with your life, where and how you want to.

[Lance69]

Accepting this type of behavior will only limit you, frustrate you and limit your growth.Emotions are time based. What I mean is the more time you spend on getting yourself prepared to deal with the situation on your own and getting yourself esteem back, the stronger you will become and appear to others. You will stop settling for less or clinging to old feelings because they are familiar to you.Stop thinking with your emotions and think with your mind. Getting married is not going to solve the problem or make someone fall in love with you. It will inevitably cause your to either become more depressed clinging to the hope that things will change, he will change or the " family" will cause change.What about the other person with his child, they too will ply a pivatol role in your life, family as well as his.Can you accept this and move on? Will it happen again? You need to examine these questions and be true to yourself. Does a future with him feel right, financially, emotionally and spiritually. Can you see yourself in 10yrs. Happy, completing your goals and will he be there to support you emotionally, physically etc.. I believe there are no secret babies as we have intuition which we tend to ignore, because we see things the way we want to see them and block out what we fear the most... the truth. Just something to think about.

[mmresd]

Take care of your first and second child, be a single mother, and charge the baby daddy child support. He is not worth being kept around.