[enj...s]

Hello.. I am married for 4 years yet my husband has single on his taxable martital status... he is the only one with income.. I do have a ssn. What should it be and what are their meanings? Is it more beneficial to have it that way? Please tell me what is the best way to handle this and what the heck they mean... thank you very much. Ps.. how does it affect me? He is still keeping EVERYTHING separate instead of joining our lives... in every way.. very frustrating, and hurtful.. Especially after all this time... I am worried. So if anyone has any other advice on how I should handle what is happening, what I need to know and do.. I would truly love to hear it and it would be greatly appreciated! I think I need to protect myself yet I went into this to join and be a team.. it is defineatly not going that way. I don't know what I need to do.. Help please! I feel like I am going to be blindsided.. all the while so focused on trying to make a meaningful life together... I feel like I am going to be left standing there with my thumb up my bum... :):( thank you for your time... sincerely, and sadly.. a woman who wants this to work.. yet would sleep a lot better being prepared.. just in case. I know this sounds terrible.. but I keep trying to no avail.. for real... I deserve love back.. and am ignorant on how to protect myself and still be me.. a loving .(sigh).. individual. Thank you very much.

[ebaines]

Hello..I am married for 4 years yet my husband has single on his taxable martital status...he is the only one with income..I do have a ssn. What should it be and what are their meanings? Is it more benificial to have it that way? Please tell me what is the best way to handle this and what the heck they mean...thank you very much.

I'll address this tax question. First, I assume what you mean is that his W4 at work was filed indicating that he is single with no dependents. The amount of money withheld by his employer for income taxes is based on how he filled out that form. If he indicated single and no dependents then chances are they are withholding more for income tax from his paycheck than they need to. The consequence is that when you file your income tax return you will be due a big refund, since too much tax was withheld. Some people like getting a big refund, and use this over-payment of withholding during the year as a sort of forced savings plan. But ideally he should submt an updated W4 to his employer that contains accurate data reflecting his marital status. That way less would be taken out of each paycheck and you get to use more of your money when earned as opoosed to giving the IRS an interest-free loan.

When you file your taxes you must file as either "Married Filing Jointly" or "Married Filing Separately." He cannot file as single - that would be illegal. In general most couples pay the least amount of tax by filing as "Married Filing Jointly."

[enj...s]

S far as taxes firsyt year we filed toghthwer.jointly... now I sign . Nn he direct deposits it into his own account and is not fair about it... I have put my all into this.. I don't work.. but I do try my best to make a loving and homey home... seriously.. can he really just stop giving me money for food & stop paying the rent and I will be living under a bridge like he says? N he works out of town and everything in our rented house I owned before we were married.. thats what I mean.. he won't marry us.our things.. everything is separate.. worse than before... I found notes he left to himself of to do things... one was go to a divorce lawyer.. his sister now works for one in mn... I asked him about it and he said he just went to visit her at work... this is sooo unjust it doesn't seem legal... he lies about everything.. tells me he doesn't want a divorce.. yet doesn't try at all allways provoking fights or not calling... hes working in veags.. and of course.. I just found today a players card email... in a woman's name his email.. with my.. our last name... thats ssoooo gross I can't even contain myself right now.. so granted.. he is a dog.. but I can't even afford to eat at the moment.. let alone think of moving.. to where? What do I do? What without being like I said greedy... am I entitled to? I have put everything into this relationship with a whole heart.. I know I am in a jam.. I know I have to face reality.. he is a dog... but can he really just leave me with nothing and nowhere.. I am a true and good woman.. I don't deserve to be treated so poorly.. I am shocked... I had no idea he had the capacity to go so low... sorry for spouting.. I just found that card with another woman's name.. n what is my last name.. so easily added to hers.arrrg... I feel so stupid.. if people think the grass is greener.. they should first try watering their own lawn... it makes me sick... he didn't even try

[enj...s]

Ebaine thank you for answering so quickly... I have been trying to thank you but only half of it came out and in the answer part. Anyway his paycheck says.. taxable marital staus.. single.. his work knows we are married... exemptions/allowances.. federal.. 1... is he saying he is single? Is that legal? And what are my rights as a wife of 4 years.. non working.. can he just stop paying things and I will be stuck.. what legal right do I have.. I am not trying to be piggy... I just do not think it fair.. or just to be able to do that when I have equally invested myself into this relationship... you probably read the last half first.. very emotionbal.. so he can just decide to take up with someone else.. lie to me n let me starve n have nowhere to live.. really? I don't want to live under a bridge like he state... what can I do that is fair so I can at least get started on my own?

[Fr_Chuck]

You answer your own question to add more info, I have merged the two threads

[enj...s]

I am not computer savvy... and I do not see the answer quick post button... I don't mean to answer my own question I am just trying to respond to someone who did... like you fr chuck... is this right? I see reply but not under yours...

[enj...s]

I am still not doing it right am I?

[enj...s]

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes that is right, we are not always here, sometimes it can take hours for us to get back to you


You have more issues than the taxes. Money needs to be in joint accounts unlesss there are reasons not to. I would suggest counseling to try and work out issues in your life and his.


Why don't you getr a job so you will have some income of your own?