[starshineld]

Before my b/f and I started dating and in the beginning he seemeed to not be able to keep his hands off me. He would tell me how beautiful and perfect I am all the time. But then one day it just seemed to start fading away. I know people say this is typical but it scares me. I know he loves me he shows me in so many ways and it's obvious I just don't know if he is so physically attracted to me. One reason this scares me is because I see the women he finds attractive and they all have bigger butts and bigger boobs then me. Another reason is he likes bigger girls and since we have gotten together I have lost 15 lbs so IDK if my losing weight is causing him to loose his physical attraction to me. He doesn't want to have sex as often anymore which he says is because I have a lot going for me and he doesn't want to accidentally get me pregnant. For those saying "well there's birthcontrol and condoms" he can't keep it up with condoms and he has a daughter due to failed birth control. Another thing is that he expressed the desire to possibly want an open relationship or at least a threesome. This concerns me because obviously if he's interested in other women he does have a sex drive. Although it does seem like he hasn't much interested in thinking of anyone else sexually either. So like I said before the sex seems to fewer and far between and when we do have sex he doesnt't seem to be able to get off (and not that he's not trying cause when he does try to hold back he can last all night) and also the last time we had sex he closed his eyes when trying to get off. He didn't used to do that. Could this mean that he is losing interest in me physically or could be that the spark is just fading and if so what can I do to get it back.

SIDE NOTE* I am an extremely sexual woman and can go for it every day and even when I try to initiate it a lot or tell him I want to f&*% him or make love to him he seems disinterested or says he isn't in the mood. Please help.

We love each other very much and I don't want something like this to ruin or bring down our relationship. What can I do?

[Fr_Chuck]

First I don't believe he can not "keep it up" with a condom, if so, he needs to be checked. It sounds like an excuse or he gets his way and then it is not used.

But it sounds like there are many many issues in your relationship and professional counseling is really needed