[josh48]

I was going out with this girl for like more than 5 years, I am like ten years older than her, she is 22, she just broke up with me for no major big reason, I think she is biopolar too, cause one day she is happy and one day she is yelling and going crazy, sometimes she is laughing a lot, she gets mad for little stuff too, when I met her the first time, we kissed for a like 40 minutes non stop, I felt something right away, our relatioship did not start very good at the beginning, she would always breakup up a lot,and we get back together, but then she got into me more,and she really loved me a lot, I am a nice guy and treated this girl good,gave her gifts and all kinds of good stuff,I always took her to nice places, like las vegas, roadtrips and good stuff,about 2 years were going out she started like telling me she was confused, I did act like asso sometimes, but because she would make me mad, so she would break up and tell me she wanted to meet other guys and that she was not in love, and that she was not happy, and that I can find a girl too, or sometimes she would ask for time to think, this happen like more ten times, I would always beg, she would not really work for it and I would just take her back right away, I mention she might be bipolar, one day, she told me she thought about it a lot and that she did really love me..


Next week she hates me, but we would argue a lot over some dumb things, not to mention she was selfish and greedy, and kind of spolied, we had very good times as well, I really love this girl a lot, we even would text a called each other at the same time, it was weird, but I felt like a connection or something. Well the years went by and it was the samething again and again, she would want to get back, I know she was young and problaby her disease had something to do with it, we did have something special, but some of the other problems were like she kind of wanted to be her friends and leave me for last, after a while her friends started getting married, so she wants to get married too,but I told her I can't afford it now,then she thought I was just with her and not serious,but I was serious, just that I wanted her to put her part too,she always wants things when she wants them,and always get negative ideas in her head,


So just like a couple of months ago I got her a car,but I gave the rest of the money she needed for it,she was like so happy,I would even fixed it up nice for her,I am a mechanic,that was like first car,our relationship seem to get very good,but then look like she paid attention more to the car than me,she would go out more often with her friends,it was on and off arguments,and then we are happy again for a while,then I got in house arrest for driving with suspended license and a accident I had,she cried and said she would even sell the car to get me out,so the first month I was in house arrest,she would come and see me normally,but then it look like she stop coming and she was going to parties in the second month in the ankle thing,so I got mad and told her why you don't come over anymore to see me,so we argued again,the third month she would like come everyday and bring me food,she was being nice,but she would complain about sometimes and she said,it was boring being in the house,I mean it was better than being in jail,

She did mention way before couple of years that she felt sorry for me,I did not know what to believe and she would confused me,we barely had sex too,so this one day she comes over, next thing she tells me some bogus things again,I got mad and I ignored her for a week,I tried texting to her to tell her what is going on,she ignored me too,she calls me very late one night telling me she can't take it no more,that she is not happy again,that she is not in love,and that things are not the same anymore and that she don't know if she is making the right decision or not,she told me this before many times,she was working like everyday for like two weeks,she also said if she was not happy she could not love me,she was also the jealous type,and I did add a girl she did not know in my Facebook,but she would have a lot guys in there in did not know too,she said something like she cheated before or a like a hint kind of,I think she was mad and I did not believe her,we did have some OK trust,she did cheat on me before I forgave her,I don't know if she broke up this time for sure,and she seems like she moved on so easily,like nothing happen,we did love each other a lot,I felt like the house arrest made her change,or somebody told her something,I am very hurt and I don't know why she did that,after all I tried and helped her,everybody told me to leave her alone and give her space...

[talaniman]

All due respect, but she will only be happy when she gets her way, and uses you, goes and comes as she pleases, and after 5 years, this is a good thing if you run like hell the other way.

Or waste another 5 years and have crap to show for it. Sorry guy, but you should at least try to do better than being a pet when she needs one.

[endriani]

I think you might be a little hypocrite,no hard feeling.I'm just saying, I just want to ask how you get your accident? Are you drinking?or are you driving after a party? Then why can she having a party also? And why won't you married her when she want it to? Why didn't you tell her just wait until I get the money and I'll marry you then, instead of telling her that you don't have the money now? U sure can buy a car for her? And take her to Las Vegas, give her many gifts. I believe you have lots of money for savings. Why can you tight the knot?

I let you know, a girl it's a girl, I mean we like having fun but it doesn't mean that she don't love you. She need some space sometimes to just have fun from all of your drama. She's a bipolar. It is just a phrase, women's are confusing, one minute we were happy next minute we are angry, sad, over thinking of everything, and then we are happy again that is women. It is our nature. But its doesn't mean that she doesn't make sense, she really love you I can tell, if she got confused like that. She just afraid of getting hurt. She loves you a lot, but she don't want to show you that much because she was afraid to get hurt if she admit that to herself, she just need to feel save around you, maybe she have been broken inside from previous relationship, or anything that make her cautious about love, because she is insecure person. My suggest is maybe talk to her, see what it is she really want from you. If she wants you to marry her, you give her a plan. Get her to talk about her real feelings for you just be true for both of you. If she didn't love you, she wouldn't asked you to marry her.

That is just my opinion :)

[josh48]

Hey endriana I hit a car because I was going fast,we all make mistakes,she was driving with her car and she was behind me,we were going for a cruise,she was with her friend,I told her I wanted to save some money and that I don't have the money now,she really does not work much,I always pay for eveything everywere we go,I even spoiled her sometimes,when we first started going yea we would go to places like las vegas,this girl is very selfish too,wants everything her way and when she wants too,and has a bad temper sometimes,anyway I did want to marry her before,but she would tell me she was not ready for that,because she like being with her friends and going out with them a lot to parties and clubs,so I let her be happy and tried not be too jealous,so then all her friends start getting married,now she wants to get married,but then she gives like confused,then she says she wants to live with her perents more time,well she don't pay any bills there and they take care of her,


She is use to living for free and barely works sometimes,she gets her check and goes crazy and she will spend the money right away,I do throw some things back at her, like when I buy her stuff,because I feel she don't appreciate me,I told her lets save up together,but she wants me to put everything on the table,I don't make a lot of money,I do pay a lot of bills,and I spend a lot when I take her out,then one day she tells me she wants a rich guy,because both us don't really have money,I got really mad because I try so hard and make effort to make it work out,and I have helped her out a lot,I do want to marry her, but I want her to do her part like I do,and I want her to be serious about it,because she tends to play games,I really love her a lot and I would never try to hurt her,I just get mad sometimes and I know she is young,she acts immature sometimes too,I tell her to grow up and be a women already,maybe it offends her,but if she wants to marry me, I want her to show me that she is 100% ready,money has been a issue,she is a inpatient person,I told her to get a steady job were can buy her stuff or watever she needs,so I won't have to spend a lot of money,


She has always been confused about me,and I think she needs to find out if I am worth it,one day she tells
Me she feels sorry for me one day she says she really loves me,I am a good guy and I give her plenty of attention most of time,we do argue here and there, I do let her go out when she wants too,because she did tell me she wants a rich guy and it did hurt me a lot,and I ignore her for a week,I tried texting her too see, what she felt for me and why I got mad,she ignored me too,she was working like everyday,because of the holidays,so I know that would caused her more stress,rewmember I am in house arrest,she problaby got tired of coming to my house to see me,friends tell her things,I did a lot for her and I cared a lot,she is a very jealous person,so next thing she calls me to tell me, she can't take it more,that I am a nice person,but that its her not me,she said she is not happy with herself,and that she don't know if she is making the right decision,and that she cheated on me before,and that I can find another girl,and that she is not in love with me,but she does like me,she said mostly all of this in past break ups,she really hurt like crazy,she seem very mad this time,whe she is the one that started it,I don't mind, if she takes time to think,I was really faithful to her,and I always put a effort into this relationship,it seems like it did not hurt her at all,after all we had,what should I do??

[talaniman]

You should leave her alone, and stop taking her crap. I doubt she changes at all. Let her find a rich guy to spend his money.

Why are you even so stuck on someone that doesn't see things your way, or help you through life at all except when it works for her?