[AutumnB]

I am 17, I turn 18 this March, but I am only a junior in high school. I live with my adopted parents, and my biological brother. I talk to my biological mother, and my father, and other family daily.

A few weeks back, I ran away, and stayed with my biological mom for 3 days until the cops found out where I was, and sent me home. Once I turn 18 my biological mother and family would like me to move in with them, but my adoptive parents expect me to stay here. I was in foster care from age 7 or 8 to age 12 because my biological mother could not take care of my brother and me. My two older brothers live with my biological mom. I have forgiven my biological mom completely, and fear that not going to live with her is going to push her back into doing really bad stuff again, on the other hand going to live with her is going to hurt my adoptive family, and my brother.

There is no in between it is stay or go, and either way I am going to hurt people I love. I need someone to talk to... PLEASE HELP!

[chalilla]

My advice to you is to stay where you heart tell you because like you say you will hurt people one way or another, but you have to be more thoughtful and have some apreciation for your adoptive parents and all they have done for you. And whatever you decide, is not going to change what your biological mother do with her life you are not responsible for her actions, she is an adult and whatever she does with her life is nobody`s fault but her own. Sometimes the idea that we have about other people is just an ilusion and we later can be hurt and dissapointed by their actions. So be careful with your decition, and like the old say go "is better what you know" and that is your adoptive parents they know you and you know them better than your biological mother, and remember that mother is not the one that brought you into the world but the one who raise you and took care of you in sickness and in health, and be more apreciative of your adoptive parents and cosider yourself lucky that you found someone that care so much for you to adopt you.

[talaniman]

I think you should seriously think about staying where you are and being on your own. Do you have future plans for yourself as in college or working? Hey I get you are in a hard place, but I think it works better for your brother to keep things as they are with living arrangements, and continue to be in touch every day with your biological family.

But YOUR own plans for YOUR future is the main thing and should dictate all your actions after high school.

Good luck guy.