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lovethemojo · Dec 4, 2011, 09:58 AM

I have been in a relationship for seven years (no, I do not think this is "7 Year Itch").

About three and a half years ago, my partner had been experiencing an addiction problem to pain pills due to a back injury that occurred before our relationship. He came to me after he sought help and admitted his issues as he was aware that things between us were failing and I was about to leave him. As of today he has been sober and I have never been more proud of him for making some positive health changes.

However, due to his time with his doctors, he found that he has high blood pressure and depression. He has been on medications for depression and high blood pressure. His medications have suppressed his sex drive completely and his doctors at this time do not recommend that he take Viagra/anything for his impotency.

Since he began his path to recovery, he has become less and less concerned for ways to keep the "fire" going. Things are stagnant, and he's more involved in himself. I feel more lonely and understood -- not to mention that I have been involved and supportive with his health issues. But now that things are starting to affect me, I am becoming less understanding and more impatient. I have communicated how I have been feeling but he says he understands but yet every day is still the same.

I have never thought that I would become like this, but WHAT THE HELL DO I DO ABOUT THIS? Where is the fine line between love, understanding, and mutual awareness?

Fr_Chuck · Dec 4, 2011, 11:27 AM

You and he need to talk, even if he can not get an erection, he can still I am sure find pleasure in other sex acts, and he should be finding ways to help you find pleasure also.

Perhaps time for counseling.

lovethemojo · Dec 4, 2011, 02:21 PM

Thank you Chuck for responding, I totally agree. I have mentioned to him ways to provide me pleasure, but nothing has happened. The experiences I have encountered with this matter is quite overwhelming. Not to mention, how desperate and embarrassing this is. I have been looking into counseling. Again, thank you for the male feedback.