[JMC180]

Hi everyone. I am a young women. I have been dating my boyfriend for a half a year now. Our sex is so great. But we try to change it up here and there you know. We have tried edible creams, KY, a vibrator, handcuffs, lingerie, blind folded. But we have ran out of ideas. I would really like to surprise him with some really exciting, erotic ideas. I just can't think. So do any of you have an idea or two to spare?

[DaniCalifornia]

Have you explored BDSM? It's Bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism. It's like roleplay, taken a step or two further. Also, research some sex books, read them together, and choose some things you find interesting.

Another thing that's really sexy, write each other an erotica story. Your wildest fantasy with your partner, in detail. Then read them to each other.

Do either of you have any specific fetishes? That may help me link it to something new you can try, that's related.

X Dani

[Cat1864]

How 'young' are you?

[JMC180]

I am 21 years old. And thanks for the advice DaniCalifornia, we have never tried any of those things before. The answer to your question if we have any fetishes is no, we do not.

[Cat1864]

You have already tried BDSM or rather a couple of the lighter aspects of it-blind folds and handcuffs.

BDSM is not something you 'surprise' someone with. BDSM is something for consenting adults to discuss and set limits on before it gets anywhere near the bedroom.

IF you are going to experiment with the heavier aspects such as spanking or more rigid bondage, make certain that both of you know what is going on and have a safe word. A safe word is a word you use to stop everything if someone is getting uncomfortable with is going on. It is a word you don't normally use but that you can remember. If some says the word all action stops immediately. Do not play games by crying 'wolf' and confusing the reason for the word.

I will admit that I am a bit concerned that you have only been dating for six months and already you have run out of ideas for 'changing it up'. It makes me wonder if there is more to the relationship than sex. I really hope you are putting more energy into building a strong foundation for the relationship.

Sometimes the best way to 'change it up' is to do something other than have sex. Don't forget to encourage intimacy in other ways. It is something that can come in handy if a time comes when you can't have sex for some reason such as health issues.

Good luck.

[Fr_Chuck]

Feathers, positions of all types, but agreed, you will at some point and time run out of "new" and "different" ways. It is the emotional fun that makes it work

[willymcgee]

Have u tried exploring in the booty area? It can be very stimulating both ways