[Blakjewel]

Help me! I met this guy over the summer and went out with him for literally one day. He asked me out and I said yes, then I broke it off the next day, wasn't trying to hurt his feelings, but just had a crazy ex-stalker boyfriend for 3 yrs before him and I didn't want any problems with the two of them.

Since then, we text occasionally just to say hello, but I never told him why I broke it off -- just small details about my stalker ex. We hooked back up last week (had sex) again but didn't make it clear where the relationship is heading. I just wanted to enjoy his company because I really like him, and have since the first day I met him. He is the perfect boyfriend and is definitely hubby material :).

Our birthdays are one week apart and I can tell there's a connection there even though I thought he hated me for breaking it off. I tried doing everything right and still messed up, and now I'm kicking myself every day since we hooked up because I found out he has a girlfriend now. He hadn't told me. I'm hurt and confused. I don't know if he was just doing this as payback or if he wants to pick up where we left off.

I want to keep my distance and not try to ruin their relationship since I did kind of ruin my chance with him, but there's definitely something about him that pulls me closer.

What should I do?

[mmresd]

First of all, there is no relationship, it is just a two time fling that you have had with someone. Second, he now has a girlfriend so you need to back off, respect his relationship, and move on. Lastly, if you want something deeper with someone than just casual sex you are going to have to get to know them before you let them be intimate with you so quickly, there might be attraction, but as far as potential for a relationship I do not believe so.

[Homegirl 50]

You have a psycho ex you're dealing with and he has a girl friend. Neither of you are available.
You need to deal with your problems before you try to hook up with someone else.

Leave this guy alone. He has moved on. You talked, had sex, that was it.

[vanheart]

"went out with him for literally one day"
Awwww...

You got to get rid of your crazy ex first.

Do that, then take your time. Patience.

Get that sorted.