[madly_in_ove]

Okay so me and this lad are really close and we always see each other, everyday without fail, I've started to like him more and more since I've have been out and about with him, we play fight all the time and always end up hugging and like cuddling up, I told him how I felt about him and he said he felt the same and to see how things go, he seems to act differently when his mates are there though:/ I really like him and would it be wrong if we say went all the way in out relationship if it got to that stage I really don't know what to do, they say older lads are only after one thing but has different with me, and I know they say you can't be ' in love' at 14 but I'm sure I'm pretty damn close to it with this on going feeling. Please help what should I do?X

[Fr_Chuck]

You would not be a serious girlfriend for him, that is why he treats you different when his mates are around.

[TrueFaith]

Again the age

It's just.. It feels wrong I know you feel your feelings and we can't control how we feel

Oh and as for the love thing I've been in love since I was 6 with girls

I found out later it was just attraction and lust most of the time because to really love someone you have to know them and live with them for a long time to find true love.

My advice wait a few years if the guy is still faithful to you then by all means but for now I would advise against it

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...nd-557975.html

Is this the same guy you were wondering if having sex with would be okay?

Just curious, how do you see this guy every day and get to cuddle with him? You may well be in love, the 14 year old kind, that's not yet grown into mature adult, while he is already a grown man, and no doubt your parents don't know about him.

The fact is you are jail bait for him, so he cannot just be open and upfront, because he could end up in BIG trouble with the law.

He is also to dumb to know the trouble he, and you, can cause you both, so be smart and steer clear of him, love or not, its not worth the trouble it will bring you.

[adam_89]

Technically it is wrong, for him mostly, but as said above, you should stay away from all this to save you both trouble.

[madly_in_ove]

Thank you for all your help and I'm not saying I would go all the way because I know the consequences and it wouldn't be fair on either of us. I just don't find it easy to just walk away or not talk t him when I'm with him everyday:/ x

[adam_89]

Why is it that you are with him everyday? Could you maybe talk to him about it and tell him that you can't be with him for obvious reasons? Neither of you should be led on like there is a possibility of something happening when you know in your mind that nothing should come of this. You really should find a guy who is more your age, you will find the connection a lot better and more eye to eye. At your age, you really should just focus on school and having fun like teenagers should have. There will come a time and a day when you will find a guy worth being with and not having the troubles you are facing now.

[talaniman]

You haven't explained why you are with him every day, since you should be in school, and he should be at work, or college!