[slappingthebass]

A couple of months ago I lost my virginity to one of my good guy friends and we agreed it would just be between us two and it would mean nothing. Previously, I had been hooking up with one of his closest friends who I kind of like and only recently I had discovered that I have feelings for this other guy. A couple of weekends ago my guy friend and I were talking and he was saying how he liked me and his mate said he should ask me out. I really like his other friend so I tried to make it clear to him that I don't see him that way. And it's weird because he's the one I lost my v plates to.. Anyway basically I need advice as this situation is stressing me out and I don't want to ruin my relationship with both these guys. I still reall care about my guy friend even though I'm pretty sure I don't see him in the way he sees me. Any advice/opinions would be much appreciated!

[talaniman]

Not sure how old you are, but sex can often blur the lines between love/like/lust. Sex motivates people to want more, and if you want to find out what true feelings are about, take sex out of the equation, and talk, and interact, and find out if there is more to feelings than just the lust that all of us are prone to.

That may take time because lust fades, and love grows, and crushes, or intense feelings can come, and go.

[slappingthebass]

Thanks for your response.. I'm 18 by the way. Also the guy who I did lose my virginity to I am easily able to interact with and I feel comfortable around him. But I don't want to ruin my relationship with him if I pursue something with his friend, so yeah. Such a sticky situation haha

[vanheart]

What's done is done.

We all start somewhere. Congratulations.
Just know that you are in control of your actions.

From this one forward.
There's way more.