[maricka]

Hello to all... I am quite confused but will try to describe how I'm feeling. I'm in an online relationship with a man I met 5 months ago on a dating site. He seems very nice and gentle with me, and want to move forward to meet each other soon. I am willing for this step as well. However, I've been recently stressed out because I discovered that he has a second Facebook account. When I confronted him, he denied using this second account, but it was actually used by his best friend. This sounds quite weird and I'm really having problems to believe that. Please advise me what shall I do, should I trust this person? Otherwise, he constantly assures me how much I mean to him and when I listen to him and watch him, I definitely feel he is sincere... I really don't know what to do. Thank you for your time to read this.

[Cat1864]

If the only place you have talked to him is on-line or by phone/text, then I would be very careful. Even if you talked to him every day for hours and hours, you still would only be seeing a very small part of who he is.

He could be telling you the truth about the Facebook page or he may be the 'friend' using it. You have no way of knowing.

How did you find out about the second page?

Do you know if he is still going on the dating site where you met or if that was the only site he was on?

As easy as it can be to form attachments over the internet, it is important to remember that you can't really know someone until you spend time with him/her and see for yourself if what you have been told is anywhere close to the truth. I suggest paying close attention to any details that he gives you. Look at what he may be trying to distract you from. If anything looks like a warning sign, don't ignore it or dismiss it as being paranoid.

If you do end up meeting him, do not stay with him or allow him to stay with you. Do everything in your power to make certain that you remain safe. If you visit him, make certain you can rely on yourself for food, accommodations, and a way home at any time you chose to leave.

Stay safe and trust your own judgment. If any part of what he says seems strange or 'off', let him go. I would hope that you trust yourself a lot more than the (maybe) sincere words of a virtual stranger.

[Kahani Punjab]

Maricka

Welcome to this beautiful site, first!

There is difference b/w real world and virtual world. This you need to remember. He can be sincere even if he 'cheats' or 'sort of it' on net. He may be insincere, even if he is honest online. No way to ascertain it, if you are not WITH him, for quite some time. In real/physical world, the physical relationships are real, always, bad or good, whatever they are, but they are real. What Shakespeare said long back (appearances are deceptive) is true online too, remember.

The answer to this question lies in seeing that person, in person.