[ginger2010]

So I met this guy through my friend... only catch, I met him through Facebook as well. He's currently at school across the country, so our relationship has been online. We've been "dating" online for almost two months now. At first it was mainly Facebook messages, and phone calls. But we exchange handwritten letters every week, as well. And recently, we've been video chatting every night for at least 2 hours. There's no doubt in my mind that we will meet in person when we both go home for break. We've come to learn so much about each other, and feel so much for each other. We've both admitted that, at times, we forget that we met online, and feel like we've been an item forever. Last night, we were on video chat, and he said "I love you." I wanted to say it back, but I feel like I want to wait until we've met in person. We both kind of got awkward and he was immediantely like "oh my god that slipped out...". I don't know what that means. Or how I should feel about it. All I know is it made me extremely happy and quite terrified at the same time. Is it smarter to wait until we've met in person to express my feelings back to him, or should I just express how I feel to him now? I've wanted to say those three little words to him so many times, but I feel like it might just not be the right time, when I remind myself that this has been an online relationship... what do you all think?/

[lemon14]

I think that you should listen to your heart. If you feel that it's too early to express your feelings then, wait. These matters cannot be hastened if you are not ready.

[KoolAide187]

I think you should tell him how you feel. Once you do that, he will feel better... that akwardness will you both will be able to express how much you feel for each other more freely. Take your time until you're ready but if you feel happy about him saying it at least you know how he feels. Maybe he is waiting for the same from you... he is waiting for that happiness. If there is no doubt in your mind that you two will meet then just do it. You will feel much better afterwards. But only tell him if you truly feel the same for him. GL

[Alty]

If you do love him then there's no reason not to say it.

If however, you are only thinking about saying it because he did, then no, you shouldn't.

You're obviously hesitant. Is it really because you two haven't met in person, or is something else holding you back from saying those three little words? Be honest with yourself and you'll know what to do.

[friend4u178]

You don't Love him nor he you , you can't love someone without actually meeting them. What you love is the thought of what he is , or might be once you meet.

Sure meet , and if all falls in place maybe those feelings can materialise , I hope it works out for you.

[Fr_Chuck]

If you have both been honest and for a couple months shared emails, chats, phone calls and now video chats, you can actually get to know the other person better than a couple who do real life dating, since so often they are playing games, and sexual desires or sex itself soon confuses things or takes up all the time instead of talking. Or you sit and watch TV or see a movie and so on, so you still don't talk.

So I do believe at some level you can love each other, but it is one that has a long way to grow.

[ginger2010]

You're right, I ended up telling him how I feel, and he was so happy and said it back right away. Our relationship has definitely become much more open and, as you said, we can more freely express ourselves. I feel that we've become much closer.thx

[DoulaLC]

Glad to hear it is going well for you. I have to say, my husband and I both knew we loved each other before we actually met in person. There are pros and cons with how these kinds of relationships begin.

[ginger2010]

Could you list for me some of the pros and cons you encountered?

[Homegirl 50]

You have been dating Online for two months. Before you get caught up in the whirlwind, get to know each other face to face, see how you really are in person, in real life and in real time.