[Cambodia]

Hi I'm Cambodia, I'm married twice my first married I have a daughter and now she is seven years old, and my second married my baby will due in November. Since we first got married till now my husband always has something hiding with me, specially between him and his mom, we got fight many times about it and he promised he will not do it again but he never changes, I do not blame him that he loves his mom, I do not blame him that he talks to his mom every single day, but what upset me is before he plan to do something for the family he has to discus with his mom first but not me, I am really upset, every plan, jobs or idea he needs his mom agreement other wise he will changes the plan non stop, I would suggest him to be accountant because I believed that he smart and he could do it, but when his mom found out she do not agree with my idea and try to convince him to quite this course while he already in, his brother also don't want him to be accountant so one day we got fight so bad, and he almost flap me in front of his friend, but my husband he so drunk and doesn't know what happening. I never get along with his brother so well because his girlfriend who is my husband ex-girlfriend she always try to be my big sister all the time and treated me like an idiot, we fights for the reason to protect his mom, his brother and his ex-girlfriend, But since I have a baby with him, he don't care about them anymore of course he loves me, and we would follow me to Cambodia if I will, but one thing that he never and ever honest or follow me is the conversation between him and his mom, he call his mom to ask or discus with any idea he has, and than he will deleted the phone call history, because he knows that some time I would use his phone... But when I and his mom talk she always know the plan and everything happened in my family. If I would dare to ask him why he does this to me he will never admit himself. But anyway I still hold it and cry myself because I don't want to fight in front of my daughter every time with all the same dam thing like this, he would worried to lose me and he ask me every day do I still love him, but why can't he be honest to me? What should I do I know he loves his mom more than he loves me and his own kid, he honest to his mom but he will never be honest to me, and I don't want to divorce, but I couldn't hold it any more, I'm afraid some day our marriage would step to end because of this, I divorced the first marriage is the same reason, so I don't want to divorce second marriage with the same reason, but if we talk of course we could and we fight than he promises that he will stop but this was happened many times already, I didn't see anything changes at all, so why I need to talk? Please help me and share your experience and idea to me I am lost now, I don't know what to do, I don't want to divorce because of my children, but I could not take it anymore I could not live with the person who not honest to me anymore.. Please help

[kcomissiong]

Can and admin move this. It looks like it would be a better question for the marriage or relationships forum

[JudyKayTee]

Here's what it comes down to - are you better off with him (married) or without him (divorced). You appear to have grounds for divorce.

What do you want to do - legally.