[roeruss]

I am about to go away from home(run away) and thinking of leaving for while my teenager daughters with the care of my sister in laws and house maid.
Husband is out of the country working. I want out and will seek annulment when time comes.I have met someone, single guy and his willing to take care of me.
Please, I also want to say here, I am at this situation, from previous affairs of my husband is doing, without him knowing I knew it all.
I came to a point in my life that I am fed up.
Can my husband... sue me and the man Im with now if he knew where we are? Can I still have my kids back if I want them with me in the future??

Thank you. More power!

[ConfusedMother9]

I'm sorry if I seem rude and obviously, I do not know your situation but why would you just not divorce your husband & stay with your daughter? It is certainly not fair for her if you run away. And if you are leaving her with your husbands sister,Im sure he will be a part of her life. It would certainly be hard for you to regain any sort of custody after leaving her with him. I am not sure about him sueing you or what he would sue you for.

I am just urging you to please consider what you are thinking of doing.

[roeruss]

I'm sorry if I seem rude and obviously, I do not know your situation but why would you just not divorce your husband & stay with your daughter? It is certainly not fair for her if you run away. And if you are leaving her with your husbands sister,Im sure he will be a part of her life. It would certainly be hard for you to regain any sort of custody after leaving her with him. I am not sure about him sueing you or what he would sue you for.

I am just urging you to please consider what you are thinking of doing.

THANK YOU FOR THAt quick reply.Its OK rudeness is applicable I guess in this kind of situation now. But talking about divorce. We have no divorce in my country. I am not from USA. I am from an asian country which offers no divorce.So annulment is the only possible way out of being married to him.
I have to leave them for while(I have 2 daughters anyways). And have to start building what's lost with me and make myself able to provide for my kids in the future.
So leaving them behind with their fathers relatives for the time being is the only options I have. Because I am sure, after knowing I did that, he will come home and took care of our children.
I only want out of his reach now.
I am torned and confused... but still leaving my kids behind is my only way out.

[ConfusedMother9]

Why is it not possible for you to take your daughters with you? Think of what it would do to them! And how well do you know this man you plan to run away with? Men say plenty of things they do not mean & that is applicable in every country! Lol

[JudyKayTee]

"Running away" with some single guy who will provide you for you is NOT the way to guarantee your future. And you are planning to leave your children behind and trust your husband will come "back" and care for them?

It doesn't matter if there is divorce in "your country" or not. There IS divorce in the US - if that is where you are. I don't understand the mixed standard here - no divorce but apparently an affair is okay.

And if you leave your children behind under these circumstances I would not expect to regain custody of them.

The legal answer - all else aside - is that you will lose custody, most likely permanently and also be ordered to provide financial support for your children.

The moral advice (mine included) belongs on another board.

[cdad]

What country is this happening in ? Im asking because there have been times when the one alienated from the relationship has sued and won in court.