[fadedsmile]

My ex and I dated for about 5 months, and broke up almost 3 weeks ago. We were friends for 8 years before we started dating, and I had a lot of trust in him/us. We live an hour apart, so I would visit him quite often, and he would also visit me. We did so much together, I've done so many new things with him, sky diving, white water rafting, riding a motorcycle, etc.

We had got into 2 arguments in our short time together, both times I got very heated and caused us both to walk away. The second time, was the one he broke up with me for. We had a great relationship, always talked when we weren't together, but it was never overbearing. A week after we broke up, we went out to lunch and I went shopping with him. We had a great day, spent almost the entire day together, held hands, hugged, kissed. He left it by telling me to call him. We talked later that night, and he even asked when he was going to see me again. I told him it was up to him, and he said we'd talk about it cause he feels I make him "emotional".

Two days later he told me he couldn't be in a relationship, it was better left at that, he couldn't handle the feelings/emotions involed. A friend of his came by a few days later to get his things, and we haven't spoke since.

Its been about a week. I am trying to keep myself strong by not contacting him, I just enrolled in college courses and I'm even looking into new hobbies to keep my mind off him, and not call/text/email every time I get the urge. I'm just not sure if I should even bother with my wishful thinking that well one day be able to work things out and be back together, or if I should just really move on with my life.

I without a doubt feel he still loves me, and he even told me when he first asked me to be his girlfriend, I was the only girl he's every truly wanted to be with. I just need some advice, how I should handle my situation... and if there seems to be any hope, or if I should just move on, and try to stop my feelings for him.

[talaniman]

You have already laid out a good plan, and I think you stick to it. Its only been a WEEK, and I know its tough, and will get tougher, but sometimes doing nothing is the best action to take.

Hope for the best, but plan for the worst, and let time away from him work for you. Just do your thing without him, and you will enjoy it.

I don't know if he will change his mind or not. No one does, but him. But you can work on making peace with your own mind in case his doesn't change.

[Rhyme4NoReason]

I think you're on the right track, staying busy and picking up new hobbies. It's definitely
A difficult situation, but don't fall for someone that won't even stand up for you.

Sending his friend to pick up his stuff is cowardly. You need to be with a man, not a little boy.
If you think you deserve better, you will get better. But if you think you deserve crappola, you'll get crappola.

You attract what you want.