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hcantie · Sep 28, 2011, 10:28 AM

I have a 29 year old daughter who for no known reason is very hostile, disrespectful and verbally abusive to me. This has been going on now for a little more than a year. Since the untimely tragi death of my youngest daughter in 3/2011 she have become even more hostile and disrepectful. She has a 2 yr old daughter, which is my only grand child. When we are at odds, she becomes very vendictive and will delibertly keep the grandchild away. She bring about these problems because she happens to have a very nasty attitude, very offensive and defensive, and do not want to hear or understand my feelings in anyway. It has gotten to the where I totally dislike my own child as a person, and in fear of physical altercations between us. She have actually fought me once, and there is no doubt in my mind that she will not do it again. I have tried to be kind to her. I have even overlooked things that she have done to avoid any verbal argument where she lashes out in anger and becomes extremely disrespectful to me. I am totally and completely fed up with her. I want to be able to spend time with my granddaughter and her as well, but how can I if she constantly do unpleasant things that creates an atmosphere of hostility and animosity between us. She does not appreciate anything that I have done and what I continue try and do for her. I am at the point where I do not want her around me to avoid seriously injuring her. Please advise me.

jenniepepsi · Oct 5, 2011, 04:23 PM

You are both adults. If it is that difficult to be around each other, stay away from each other. There is nothing you can do about her behavior.

Depending on where you live, the legality on your granddaughter are different. As far as I know, there is nothing you can do about it if your daughter refuses to let you see the child.

May I ask what her childhood was like? How was your relationship with her growing up? Is this a new behavior? Or has something happened.

As far as the death of your other child, my heart goes out to you. But remember your daughter is grieving, and may inadvertently be taking it out on you.