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momodesu · Sep 28, 2011, 04:39 AM

I accept islam on April this year... And this is my story...

I am an easy go lucky girl and a not married mom of a 6 years old boy,I have a pakistani muslim boyfriend ans he was the one who intoduced me in islam... he said before that he will get married to pakistan and still he don't want to lose me so in order we will not be separated and in order to be with him I have to be in islam... He told me things that I never know in my lifeabout allah, prophet mohhamad (pbuh, islam and prayers... It took me long time to pray as memorizing and learning the meaning has part of it.

I told him I want my family to know about it... Though I know they will not agreed I still told them and about him,they refused then I told him that if I can quit he say I cannot as I swear already to allah, then he asked me for marriage(2nd wife),and even asked me to join an islamic center here in dubai in which I just went 1 time and I stop, he teach me to pray and memorize some surahs plus covering myself first hijab then now abaya,we are not doing such things as well which is not good in islam I stop my smoking and drinking habit as well.I pray 5 times a day now. He give me a room where only I'm staying and some time he's visiting and sleeping too but on some other bed. We are starting fighting again and again in which I don't understand as he wants me to live on his rules, I have Facebook account but I didn't put my pictures now as he said, I'm in Facebook because of my kid and family. I delete as well all my friend who are mens except for my relatives.

Now I just want to know if he is doing the right thing? As I learned a lot about embracing islam to him, but if I didn't do what he wants and answer him on our arguments he start to be angry and hiting me.he will be married next month in pakistan and I willl be here waiting as he promised marriage on his back here.

Last night we had a fight and he wants to end things up for a smal thing only, I know its wrong to argue with him but he really push me to the limit as well by abusing me and my family as they are not a muslim... I'm totally confused please help me if I should go away from him or not?

Homegirl 50 · Sep 28, 2011, 08:05 AM

You should leave this man alone.
There is no good reason to allow him in your life. He is abusive and controlling. He has already giving you a taste of what being married to him will be like.
Leave him alone

talaniman · Sep 28, 2011, 02:45 PM

This is not the love of Allah but domination, and control, and that's why you leave him and his ways alone. He is forcing you to be something he wants, but you don't, and will take no in between, or compromise, so leave as this is not love.

Jake2008 · Sep 29, 2011, 07:33 AM

I am surprised that you can even think straight.

According to your boyfriend/fiance, he has changed you, and your life (or the life that you knew), into someone he has prepared to serve. You have no freedom, and answer to him, like he is some sort of God.

What are you thinking!! What are you exposing your six year old to! Do you really want a life of servitude, domination, abuse?

Why are you there.

This is NOT love.

Please, get out, get your child out, and never look back.