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Aug 24, 2011, 02:07 AM
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How to get a persons feelings back?
Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me the day before I wrote this. We both had strong feelings for each, but my boyfriend said that the sex made him lose all the feelings for me. I am broken inside, we did all things together. But it came so surprising when he broke up. It was so hard for me, I drugged myself with medication I have. Shaking, crying and thinking about him. I really love this person, and there got to be some way to get him back.
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Aug 24, 2011, 02:12 AM
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Drugging yourself with meds you have is not going to help you in any way, other then making you really ill. What kind of meds where they anyway?
I don't know what he means by 'the sex made him lose all the feelings for you'. This is very odd. Was there not enough, or too much?
It seems to me he was looking for any excuse to break up with you. If he broke up with you over an oblique reason like this, then he could not have had the same feelings for you as you did for him. If he is done with it, then I don't see how you can regain his affection so you had better pull yourself up by your bootstaps and get on with living. Even as strongly as you feel, this is not a reason to make yourself ill.
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Aug 24, 2011, 07:16 AM
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There is NO WAY to 'get a persons feelings back' and 99% of us have gone through this kind of grief. All you can do is go ask family and friends to let you be around them while you suffer. Ask them to not try to make you cheer up or do anything, just hang out and tag along with them until it wears off, which I know you don't believe now but it WILL go away.
Our job is to tell you he's a jerk. Who says something that callous anyway? He's a loser who got his jollies hurting you while he watched you cry. Try a little anger; it's part of the healing until it doesn't matter anymore. Write down some equally awful one-liners to say to him. You got better loving from a Tampax or something.
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Aug 24, 2011, 07:29 AM
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No guy loses feelings for someone after sex if they really liked or loved them to begin with... if anything, it makes the feelings more intense. It seems to me since this bag of trash said that to you, there was just something else going on in his head. Likely he was just using you. He's not worth your grief... not at all.
As Joypulv said, most of us have been through this. It's part of life. Some of us will go through it more than once. It's not easy to deal with but you just have to be strong and pick yourself up. Someone will come along sooner or later who will make you forget all about this guy. You'll probably look back and wonder why you wasted so much time crying over him. You will be OK... really you will. Give it time.
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Aug 27, 2011, 03:16 PM
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Your in shock is all, and it will wear off in a few days especially if you have good friends and family around you. Then you will start accepting what has happened, and deal with it, without those pills, which is never a good idea.
I think you have to chalk this one up, and see it as a blessing in disguise for something better to come into your life. You can't change the feelings of a jerk, or anyone else for that matter, nor would you want to.
If he is capable of breaking up for such a stupid selfish reason, he is capable of hurting you further.
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