[jennaclark83]

Lets call him Brian. Well Brian and I went to the same high school. He just graduated this year, and is now a freshman in college. I am still only a junior in high school. Anyway over the summer, we started talking/dating. I didn't want things to get serious, because I knew he was an older, college boy, and it would never work (hes 5 hrs away).

But I began seeing him more, and more. I knew he really began to like me as well. He wasn't using me as we never had sex or anything. We just spent so much time together, and I met his family, and did a lot together. We began to really like each other, and we said the "I love yous" after 3 months. 2 days before he left for college, he was telling me how he has never felt this way before, and I was his true love, and I knew he was being sincere. In the back of my mind, I knew this would all probably change once he got to college, but I pushed it away. The night before he left, I told him I want him to be single his freshman year of college, and he understood (I think that's what he wanted too), but we still texted, and everything was fine until he got to college.

I waited for his texts for hours, and I already saw pictures up with a bunch of girls, and I was completely heart broken, so I texted him saying I couldn't do it, but I don't want to end it. Its just not fair to me. I don't want his feelings to fade away for me, and I'm the one waiting on the text. He didn't really fight for me to stay, or say he didn't want it to end either, he kind of just "this sucks" and "I love you".

I am just so hurt that everything we felt for each other this summer changed after one night, and college. I am no longer important, or on his mind, while I'm hurting over the end of our relationship. He doesn't care about me anymore. Do you think he'll regret it one day, or miss me? Or is college to fun for that? Please help, I'm so hurt.


Edited/T

[redhed35]

Maybe this was one of those summer loves, the first time you feel like your in love and maybe the first time you have gotten your heart broken.

Start no contact, it's the best way to heal and move on.

Time is a great healer, and perhaps you will look back over this summer as the best ones of your teen life... ( mine was 1985 and his name was denis!), I adored the ground he walked on and thought I would never feel like that again... how wrong I was.

Get busy with your friends and getting back into school, life is long and your in one of the best bits, enjoy it, enjoy being with your friends.

[jennaclark83]

Its not the first time I've been heartbroken, its like at least the third major heartbreak. And my last boyfriend died earlier last September (we were broken up for 2 months however I was not over him when he passed) and I thought id never move on and then this guy came along and made me so happy. And now he's just ripped away from me and I'm so sad. He seems perfectly fine like everything just changed for him. :/ I can't eat and my chest hurts and I feel like I can't breathe from crying so much. I'm so depressed.

[redhed35]

When you have experienced so much heartbreak already the you know what to do, you know already how to help yourself and also that the pain will pass, when it does good things happen and you fall in love again.

This is not your last chance of falling in love.

Make plans today to meet friends and get outside,even just go for a walk and clear your head.

[talaniman]

Trust me, your ex loved you a lot, but he has the distraction of a new, and exciting environment, and many new people, places, and things to adjust to. You don't, so of course you are hurt, and lonely, as YOU struggle adjust to the changes of losing an attachment you made over the summer.

You have to fill your time with friends, family, and things you enjoy, until the hurt is not so great. Eventually, you to will be distracted, and make adjustments for yourself, as you get ready for college yourself. Then you will see how easy it is to be distracted by a whole new world. Your time for love will come again, no telling with who though.