[sweetness10]

My fiancé has always been sweet, loving, romantic and very attentive to my needs all the time. We have been friends for 6 years and dated for 2.5 years. We first started dating, he told me that after a year, if things go good, we might make it official. I broke up with him shortly after that because I didn't feel like marriage. He was crushed and told me he believes we were meant to be together and he will wait until I see it too.

Months and months go by. I had to cut off communication at one point because he was still always hopeful and I was not going back. Then, my dad got cancer and he left on a business trip shortly after. I knew that if something happened to my dad, he would be the one person I would want to be there for me. The whole time he was gone out of the country, I missed him. I realized then that he was right. Even when he returned we took things slow. I was not ready to fall in love again. He proved his love was deep and real and I fell in love with him. My friends fell in love with him and my family did too. He proposed to me. Gave me the most perfect ring. He showers me with love and affection every day.

Then a week ago, stopped. He doesn't text me, he doesn't respond to affectionate statements. Monotone voice. He is a total stranger to me. I don't see love from him at all. When he is not around, I cry, I can't eat, I can't sleep. I can't function. I try to leave sweet messages only to be completely ignored. It is less then 3 months away. I feel like in stead of whining, and complaining to him about his actions, I could turn things around but I don't know how. I can't imagine my life without him.

My dad who is on death's bed spent 16 grand on the wedding and loves my fiancé as much as I. One minute I have hope and other times, complete depression. Any suggestions? I am head over heals in love with him.

[Cat1864]

Could something have happened in his family or at work to cause him to shut down? Has he been under any stress?

Could someone have said something that has him questioning the relationship or whether you really love him?

Is there someone you could talk to who might shed some light on what is going on?

I know this piece of advice is probably not going to be what you want to hear, but I think you need to be prepared to postpone if not call off the wedding. If you don't wait until the last minute, you may be able to get some deposits back or cancel orders while they are still refundable.

If he isn't communicating, there isn't much you can do except prepare for the worse. I hope he gets in touch with you and explains what his thinking is.

[sweetness10]

Cat1864, A mutual friend and I talked last night and he said that my fiancé told him that we were stressed financially because he did start a project on something and ended up spending more money on it than he expected to. This was something I can see now but didn't know he actually felt that way. My fiancé told our mutual friend that he thinks doing this so close to the wedding date was a mistake.
Later on last night my fiancé was a little more like himself. He confessed that he is stressed out, not so much about this project but just stressed in general. He has also been sick all week. He has been having nightmares all week about his project.
He seems cold and distant and has been for a week. It seems that when we do talk about the wedding is the only time he seems interested in the discussion and does ask questions.
When he said "stressed in general", that scares me. So many mixed messages. He isn't initiating any kind of love, and he is usually the one to do that.
I have never been married, and my dad has the opportunity to walk me down the isle. He has heart disease and cancer. I am hoping he survives to do this. They just found a clot inside his heart. My dad loves my fiancé like his own son and has invested not only in the wedding but in this project as well in hopes it will bring a huge financial payoff in the long run. I should not be feeling neglected during my engagement.
Thanks,

[talaniman]

I have to believe from what you wrote that he chased you very hard, and now questions if you feel the same as he does. Maybe its your turn to prove your feelings for him are as strong as his. I think he doubts your level of commitment, and your motives. He has proven himself, and maybe you should take a risk, and prove yourself.

Its very possible that the chase was more thrilling than the actual objective, and now that the chase is over, the thrill has faded. Its up to you to find out what's really going on, and not just be selfish, and make this just about you, and your happiness.

Sorry to hear about your father.