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Lovestinghurt · Jul 12, 2011, 07:03 PM

I was with a guy for two years and started travelling. Fell in love with another man and started a year relationship with him. Things were going really well until I had to go home for four months. I came back out and it was like we were never apart. Things took a turn for the worst when I tested positive for with child. We lost it. We both had no jobs or money and were very scared. I managed to get two jobs and supported us both for four months until the agruments over money and household chores became too much for us. I started developing feelings for another man and when me and my man split we got together. Now my ex wants to work at it has a job and a place to live. I don't know if I should take that leap or stop letting past relationships cloud possible happiness with a new guy who is amazing and driven. Its between love that kills me or something new and different that has a good chance.

talaniman · Jul 12, 2011, 07:52 PM

The way you jump from guy to guy what difference does it make? The one that pays the best would be my guess, and if he stops paying, jump to one that will.

Oh forgot the harshness warning! Sorry, but what do you expect? Keep jumping from guy to guy, and let me know how that works out in a few years.

Jake2008 · Jul 13, 2011, 09:43 AM

Just what are you looking for. Security, money, someone to support you?

None of the above will happen, as long as you rely on a man, or anyone else, to provide them for you.

When you need these things in a relationship, or judge men on whether they can provide all the material things you want, you are probably going to keep having relationships that fall short of your expectations.

If however, you are yourself, independent, confident, secure, and don't NEED anyone to provide a life for you because you can provide one for yourself, you are in a position of making decisions with a whole new perspective.

All of the things you expect others to provide for you, you must provide for yourself. Only then can you love someone without all the 'conditions' you seem to expect in a potential partner.

amicon · Jul 13, 2011, 10:53 AM

You need to have a good relationship with yourself before you think about having one with another person.

Learn how to love and support yourself then you will not have to 'be torn between' possible boyfriends.