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mystery202 · Mar 11, 2011, 05:01 PM

I've been interested in a certain guy for quite awhile. We have a lot in common and he seems to know me pretty well. A lot of my friends have even suggested we would be cute together. I've known him for what seems like forever and we're best friends, but I have trouble deciphering his emotions... one day he'll give me roses, and the next day he'll act like I don't exist and will go and spend the day with other girls. Sometimes he'll say he only likes me as a friend or "one of the guys" but he can also be very mysterious and suggestive... I've waited for him for a long time and I'm getting impatient; I don't know how to make any more moves. He also has told me that my mind is "very easy to mess with." Occasionally he'll tease me in certain ways, which make me uncomfortable.
Lately I've grown close to another friend of mine. I've known him longer and we've always been able to talk freely. He knows more about me than most people do, and we've been able to trust each other about some of our deepest problems. He recently asked me out and I politely refused - I honestly wasn't sure how I was feeling. We used to talk about everything we had in common; bands we liked, things we did, etc but lately all we talk about is how we feel, with the occasional dirty comment (which makes me slightly uncomfortable.) My friends aren't compatible with him and think we wouldn't be a good match. He also teases some of my friends, which makes them angry.
I'm looking for advice about which one would be better for me... opinions please?

talaniman · Mar 11, 2011, 09:27 PM

Neither of them. Nobody has done anything but be friends. Nothing wrong with that. But forcing romance is never a good thing, and since no one has had feelings to explore more, then keep being patient and enjoying your friendships.

Thing usually happen the way they are supposed to, but be warned, leave your friends and their opinions out of it until you are definite about your own feelings.

repeat1012 · Mar 30, 2011, 10:04 AM

Hmm neither one sound that appealing. But if I had to choose, I would choose the 2nd guy. The first one seems like he just enjoys messing with you. I can see why he attracts you but in the end he may not be right for you. And at least you're somewhat close to your other guy friend. It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Just go with how you feel. If your friends truly cared about you they would be happy for you no matter who you decide to date.

mystific · Mar 30, 2011, 04:30 PM

Well firstly if I were either of the guys... I wouldn't go out with you.

Why would he have to prove himself to your friends and be 'compatiable' with them when it's you that they could 'possibly' want to develop a relationship with?

Stop listening to your friends and make your own decisions. Unless of course they decide everything for you?

Leave both of them alone, first one sounds like he'll just screw with your head.. the second won't live up to your expectations because he's not 'friend compatiable'. End of the day it should be what you want and with whom you want not who you're friends think you'd look 'cute' with.