[livingmend]

My 42 year old boyfriend moved into my house after dating him for only four months. He at the time was living with his parents and was told by his mother that their house was being forclosed on so he had to move out. Interestinly eight months later his parents are still in their house. When my boyfriend moved in he immediately tried to take complete control over my house. He want to change everything, moving my things to replace them with his,he even wanted me to kick my dauther out of her bedroom so that he could move his son in it. He's been living in my house rent free for eight months and doesen't pay any of the household utility bills. Occasionally he'll buy groceries and he acts as if he's done a huge thing. He is a very charming guy who regualary tells me how much he loves me. He never has any money and when I've asked him to leave he tells me he doesn't have any place to go and no money to move. I've offered to help him out with first and last months rent on a place and he's come back with telling me that his credit is bad so he can't get a place. I've told him I'll pay for movers to come and put his stuff in storage but I only hear excuses, short of thowing him out on the street what should I do.

[twinkiedooter]

My 42 year old boyfriend moved into my house after dating him for only four months. He at the time was living with his parents and was told by his mother that their house was being forclosed on so he had to move out. Interestinly eight months later his parents are still in their house. When my boyfriend moved in he immediately tried to take complete control over my house. He want to change everything, moving my things to replace them with his,he even wanted me to kick my dauther out of her bedroom so that he could move his son in it. He's been living in my house rent free for eight months and doesen't pay any of the household utility bills. Ocassionally he'll buy groceries and he acts as if he's done a huge thing. He is a very charming guy who regualary tells me how much he loves me. He never has any money and when I've asked him to leave he tells me he doesn't have any place to go and no money to move. I've offered to help him out with first and last months rent on a place and he's come back with telling me that his credit is bad so he can't get a place. I've told him I'll pay for movers to come and put his stuff in storage but I only hear excuses, short of thowing him out on the street what should I do.

You sure got yourself into a pickle with this guy. You need to start filing formal eviction papers on him and get him out. If he does resort to physical violence, call the cops and have him arrested, then go to court and get a restraining order barring him from your home. Then if you have the RO you can take all his clothes, furniture, etc. and take to his parents home and dump on their front lawn.

Whatever you do, don't marry him.