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    Apr 5, 2011, 07:17 AM
    What rights does the father have?
    I'm having a child with the woman I love but lately she has been cold towards me and has now just told me that the name we picked out is not what she wants and now wants to name her and keep her last name for the baby. It's now to the point where it seems I'm just a bank account for her to draw from. I have been buying her maternity clothes and she expects me to buy all the big ticket items. She has not bought one thing for the baby and now too it looks like she is having me set her all up and then after the baby is born she will dump me to the curb and have me as a weekend father and cheque for support. From the start I've been up front with her and have told her I will do anything for her and our baby. We talked about having a child before this and that's why there was no protection used. I feel like I've been trapped now and have absolutely no say or rights. A lawyer will be my next step for once the baby is born because I so want to be the best Daddy I can be to my child. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Is this just her hormones? I don't want to be a weekend father. I want to be there in the middle of the night to change a diaper or rock her back to sleep.
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    Apr 5, 2011, 07:20 AM

    Is there a reason you are not married? This would sort out quite a few problems.
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    Apr 5, 2011, 07:37 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by father2b View Post
    ... We talked about having a child before this and that's why there was no protection used. ...
    The "protection" you should have used would have been a marriage ceremony.

    You don't have any rights until the baby is born.

    After that, you and she will, in theory, have equal rights to the child if it can be established that you are the father. But the only thing you can be relatively sure of is paying child support for the next 18 years or so.
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    Apr 11, 2011, 01:29 PM
    Married or not it sounds like you need to work on your communication and see if you are wanting the same things out of this relationchip. Having a child cannpt be the only reason you are still together. If you do go separate ways. There is nothing you can do until the child is born and rights are established. Unless you can come to a common agreement or prove her unfit you will be paying child support and be a weekend dad. Sorry.
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