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    MacDougall Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 4, 2011, 04:13 PM
    My husband of 18 years left me for my girlfirend of 35 years how do I cope?
    We have 4 teenage children. She came to visit and they moved out together on April 14th 2009. I have been to counseling for 2 years. It is still so hard to grasp what my husband and my childhood girlfriend did.
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    Mar 4, 2011, 05:19 PM

    I realize she was your friend but he's the one who made promises to you.

    This is heartbreaking. I wish I had wise words for you. Are you angry with them, sad, something in between?

    You refer to him as your husband. Are you divorced? If not, maybe a divorce would give you closure and peace.
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    Mar 14, 2011, 01:04 AM
    I feel sorry for you but at the same time , I want you to be strong and realise that ' this too shall pass' and you will have peace in your heart . Be there for your children. They need you now more than ever ! And when you feel betrayed and cheated , cry it out all at once. On one night and swear never to shed a drop of tear any day in the future. These kind of things are like accidents - they're bound to happen but I also think that you ought to know that the love your husband had for you wasn't real at ALL. Be encouraged. Be happy you still have an awesome family with 4 lovely teen kids.Praying for you.
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    Mar 27, 2011, 11:37 PM
    I am SO sorry, that is a betrayal of the worst kind. I think you need to talk to a therapist, someone to help you cope and sort through all of this and help you learn to cope.
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