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    Jun 8, 2009, 08:53 AM
    After 2 1/2 years, needing some space, How to cope!
    Hey,
    So my boy friend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years. We both really love each other and have decided that we need a break, so we broke up. It feels like it was the biggest mistake I've made. We still hangout sometimes. But, it hurts to believe that we really might be over. We have been through so much. He has always told me that our relationship is worth fighting for. He wants his space, and I want to give it to him. It's just a lot harder than I expected. He still wants to hangout with me and be really good friends. And after the summer when he has thought about it we are going to see if we really belong together. We went on a walk and we held hands and hugged when we said goodbye. Is there still hope?
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    Jun 8, 2009, 09:17 AM

    Quick question did you both want a break or did he want a break and you said OK?
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    Jun 8, 2009, 09:31 AM

    If you guys both really love each other, what made you decide to break up?
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    Jun 8, 2009, 09:36 AM

    Personally I think summer = girls in bikinis. He wants to have fun nothing serious And he will keep in touch with her just to make sure once the summer is over (funny that is when his mind will be made up) she will be standing right there with open arms.
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    Jun 8, 2009, 09:39 AM

    What's with this break stuff? I don't understand why a break is needed to stay together.

    Why not balance your lives with other things besides each other, and see if that changes your attitudes for the better.

    For sure you can enjoy yourselves away from each other, and appreciate each other more when you do get together.

    The key is BALANCE.
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    Jun 8, 2009, 10:08 AM

    The two of you can break up and continue doing things as if you were a couple. So stop allowing that!

    He wanted a break so give it to him and move on because most breaks are permanent and I hate to see you hold on to false hope. And this is exactly what your doing "holding on to false hope".

    If it was meant to be then the two of you will get back together but sometimes you have to set love free.

    Also, I hope you come back and the answer all the questions above.
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    Jun 8, 2009, 10:51 AM

    It sounds like you two broke up. So my answer is "NO". I don't think you will be more than just friends.

    I started dating my boyfriend when he was "on a break" with his ex-gf. What that really meant was that they decided to date other people.
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