[Hockeyfever]

I had a daughter while I was over seas from a one night stand. For the first 2 years over her life I was over seas. I am curently paying 500+ a month in child support. Now that I have been home for almost 3 months I have only seen her once. The mother is refusing to let me see her. I am contemplating giving up my rights as her father, because I have only seen her once in her whole entire life. Also will I still have to pay child support??
How can I go about giving up my rights as her father?

[ScottGem]

You don't. If you had looked first at this forum you might have seen this:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...st-116098.html

You will not get out of paying support, even if you were allowed to relinquish rights. A very long shot.

So what you do is go back to court and get them to give you visitation rights. Then be a father to your child.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, I guess what country is the child in, perhaps in some other countries you may sign over rights, but not in the US or Canada. It just does not work like that.

You can go back to court to get your visits, or just not visit, you don't have to use your rights, so just stop any contact if you want, But you will have to continue to make your payments.

[justv]

I personally think you need to think real hard about REAL life! YOU gave your daughter life. Think about it! The mother cannot refuse your visitation. Has this gone through the courts? Support and visitation are fruit and vegetables, not apples and oranges. If court ordered, first contact your Attorney General's office. If not, for sure do so immediately. I recommend the AG's office before hiring an attorney. I will be perfectly honest to you and anyone else that pays attention... Do your absolute best to work with the mother to agree on visitation without the courts. Once you take your life to the courts, it becomes theirs and you and the mother do as they say or you can literally go to jail in some cases. Mr. Hockeyfever, do like hockey more than your child? What is her name? How old is she? Does SHE even have a clue of who you are? Have tried to bond with your own blood? Forgive me but, you are being incedibly immature, selfish, arrogant, and I bet you think you're a stud don't you? Have you talked seriously to anyone about giving up your parental rights? Dude it's FOR REAL AND FOREVER! One final thing, and I do pray that you change your mind and your ways... even if you give up your parental rights, yes indeedy! You still pay support for the REST OF YOUR'S OR HER LIFE! Just be glad you are not in my presences right now. I don't know you or your situation, but unless you are something evil, I am ashamed for you.

JustV

[ScottGem]

The mother cannot refuse your visitation.

Not accurate. A custodial parent cannot legally refuse court ordered visitation. But the custodial parent can certainly refuse visitation otherwise.

Has this gone through the courts? Support and visitation are fruit and vegetables, not apples and oranges.

Can you clarify that? Generally support and visitation are treated totally separately by the courts.

I recommend the AG's office before hiring an attorney. I will be perfectly honest to you and anyone else that pays attention...Do your absolute best to work with the mother to agree on visitation without the courts.

Most Attorney General offices are concerned with larger issues. While some states do fold in family services issue into the AG's office not all do.

And I totally disagree with keeping it out of the courts. Without a court order, the NCP is at the mercy of the CP's whims. There is nothing to enforce visitation. There is nothing to keep the CP from moving away from the NCP. This is bad advice In my opinion

even if you give up your parental rights, yes indeedy! you still pay support for the REST OF YOUR'S OR HER LIFE!

Not necessarily. In some areas a TPR terminates both rights AND responsibilities. That's one of the reasons most courts will not grant them.

This is a law forum and answers here need to conform to statutory law. We pride ourselves on the accuracy of the advice given here. You don't know the OP and your insulting remarks were unnecessary. Its nice that you want to help, but, in the future, keep it more accurate and civil.