[relationship123]

I am in a relationship for a year now I know my mistake I have made. Leaving because we don't seee much of each other only to come back in two days this has been done at least four times by me. I will never do this again to him because it is stupid and getting him to pull away. When I do come back he says he missed me and loves me. How to get him to believe in me and trust I won't do this again? I feel he has need to do it in his own time when he is ready.

[awayandalone]

If you really want to be with him then stay and communicate... not run away.

If you are unsure leave for the last time and stop running him in cirlces its not fair to him.

Sounds like a communication breakdown to me. Talk to him about why you left the last times. It will probably take some work for him to trust you again.

[ironhide262]

You are lucky he hasn't left you already... that's one heck of a rollercoaster you are putting this guy through!
The only way for him to trust you again is for you to prove it too him! Trust is not just blindly given.. you have to earn it!

[answerme_tender]

He maybe just giving you a taste of your own medicine! He could be showing you that leaving and coming back, then leaving and coming back is not a way to get reassurance or extra attention in a relationship.

This is the time for you to really make sure that he is the man you want. Are the reasons you leaving so many times still present in the relationship. Were they trivial enough that you have emotionally burned him out. If so, then have you really worked on your personel maturity to assure both of you that this will never happen again?

Give him time to see that you honestly are trying to grow as a individual.

Take care

[talaniman]

I am confused, did he take you back yet again? How old are you both?