[lilvampgurl]

Halfway through sex, I dry up or I cannot get lubricated at all period during sex. I'm too nervous to ask my gynocologist about if, if that is whom I would pose that question to. We can't find a good quality lube in our stores around here. Can anyone offer some suggestions as to why I can't get/stay lubricated naturally during/in sex and how can I solve this? Thank you.

[jenniepepsi]

Just to let you know this MAY BE the answer to your other question :)
How old are you hon?

*edited to clarify my meaning*

[lilvampgurl]

I am 27.

[lilvampgurl]

And that wasn't an answer...

[J_9]

Please understand that this is an ADULT board, and as such we have age requirements to meet prior to answering questions in the Adult Sexuality boards.

Now, before we answer your question, are you on any medication? Do you have any health problems? Both of these can cause one not to become lubricated.

[jenniepepsi]

I'm sorry hon, I only meant that I personally feel that may be the answer. Vaginal dryness can absolutely lead to no vaginal orgams. But its not the only thing, and its not Definitely the answer, as I have a natural over lubrication and I have yet to have a vaginal orgasm either.

Many many women never experience them.

Have you tried your partner preforming oral sex, and getting you right to the edge of orgasm, but stop and go right into vaginal sex quickly while you manually stimulate your clitoris? That would be a good try at least?

[lilvampgurl]

I have endometrosis, migraines, anxiety, insomnia, depression, and PTSD. I take pain killers and a mood stabilizer, something for migraines and for the insomnia. I didn't mean to be rude but I didn't want you to think I was ignorant of the rules or anything by any means. No, he doesn't perform oral sex on me because sometimes he says I have an odor, which I went to my gyno for and he put me on a med, which I am going to take the week I am on my period for my doctor said to not have sex when I am taking the medication. But even when he was performing oral sex on me, I still would dry up half way through. :((

[Synnen]

I have endometrosis, migraines, anxiety, insomnia, depression, and PTSD. I take pain killers and a mood stabilizer, something for migraines and for the insomnia. I didn't mean to be rude but I didn't want you to think I was ignorant of the rules or anything by any means. No, he doesn't perform oral sex on me because sometimes he says I have an odor, which I went to my gyno for and he put me on a med, which I am going to take the week I am on my period for my doctor said to not have sex when I am taking the medication. But even when he was performing oral sex on me, I still would dry up half way through. :((

You have ALL of that, and wonder why you dry up? Endometriosis alone can cause that (I have it too). Anxiety alone, as well. And depression, insomia, migraines and PTSD all cause libido issues.

There is nothing wrong with having to use an external lubricant while you are being treated for all of these issues. I would, however, discuss this with your gynecologist. Believe me, she's heard it all before. And she may be able to give you some help with either adjusting medications or making suggestions.

I do have one really personal question, though, and please don't take offense: Are you REALLY and TRULY into it? Sex for women is 99% mental, and if you're not 100% into it, you're going to have issues with it. I mean, even the idea of a guy going down on me after he told me there's an odor would have the mood dropping from me---and that will dry you up pretty darn quick (losing the mood). Are you as into the sex as your boyfriend? And remember you can answer honestly here--we don't know you and just want to help. If I'm wrong about this assumption, I truly apologize, but it's a question I had to ask.

[jenniepepsi]

A personal question, and you don't have to answer if you are not comfratable.
But is the PTSD from a rape? Rape can cause HUGE issues vaginally, including dryness as well as other issues.

[lilvampgurl]

No, it's OK to ask. Am I into it? Well, I think I am. There are times I initiate it because I want it and then there are the few times that he initiates it and maybe those times there those times Im not into because for various external reasons.

[lilvampgurl]

That have nothing to do with him. Though having him tell me I have a odor is really disheartening because that's nothing I want to have and I can't wait to start the medication. Maybe we need more foreplay? Would that do it? There is one thing

[lilvampgurl]

That really turns me on that makes me really lubricated that seems to do the trick but then halfway through sex I dry up. So, that's the conundrum.

[Synnen]

As you can see, the comments field is really limited. Try using the "answer thsi question" box at the bottom of the page--it will help you not run out of room!

More foreplay would help, as would making sure that you are plenty hydrated on a regular basis--do you drink enough water? Most people don't!

I really think that it's a by-product of your medications and medical issues, though, and talking to your gynecologist would help a LOT. I know my endometriosis is bad enough that sex HURTS sometimes, especially certain angles and definitely at some times of the month more than others. I'm also to the point where I'm taking vicodin to get through the first day of my period, because the endometriosis has it so painful. I know I don't smell as good right after my period because of that, and I have dryness issues the beginning part of my cycle as well.

You said you can't find quality lubricant in your area--have you tried ordering online? I know some people here swear by the product Gun Oil (it's a lubricant, not oil you use on guns--I swear!). I've also had great success with some of the products at adamandeve.com --their personal lubricant is really very good.