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mariane · Jan 27, 2011, 07:05 AM

I have been in a relationship for almost three years nw.I love ma boyfriend but sometimes I feel ma future with him is uncertain or that he may not be able to provide me with all my needs and wants.we have a good relationship,have met some of his siblings and he has met most of ma family already.lately he has been talking about us getting engaged next year.my main concern is this: late last year I met a guy from church, we became good friends and would talk on the phone for hours and we still do, I have met this other guys family and they seem to like me a lot.I feel that I have a lot of things in common with this new guy and we relate on the same level.I really don't know what to do.should I leave ma boyfriend for this new guy or maybe I should just stay with him because am very scared of making a decision I will regret later.me and the new guy really like each other but he doesn't know that I am in a relationship with someone else.

I wish · Jan 27, 2011, 08:40 AM

Why don't you back away from BOTH of them so that you can sort things out in your mind before you make a decision.

The reason you should back away is because then you can reflect on your situation more objectively because you won't have them influencing your thoughts. It's not fair to you or to the two guys for dragging this out. Figure it out so that you can all move on with your lives.

talaniman · Jan 27, 2011, 09:55 PM

You are doing the wrong thing in my book. Lying to the new guy, and cheating on your boyfriend. Leave them both alone until you at least figure out what the right thing to do is.

HINT-It doesn't involve lying, or cheating.

Trueblu · Feb 3, 2011, 08:34 PM

Honesty is always the best policy Mariane. You have a decision to make and it affects everyone involved. But mostly you. I see this happen all the time in relationships. Where plp give up on one for the other because they think things will be better with the other. It can both be bad for you overtime. The thing is what do you want from a guy? And what are you willing to sacifice to have a great relationship? We don't fall in love, we grow in love. Time tests all things. The man you want is the man you can't live w/out. Because when its all said in done its about "Love." And not even ourselves. Let your heart guide you-- not your feelings. Be honest w/ them both and don't lead anyone on. The person who will be left w/ the baggage is the last one w/ the secret. Feelings change. Love is consistent. So tell them how you feel about your future.
Don't put them on the spot like they have to do something to prove anything to you. The one who really loves you will be the one who understands. Whether he has you or not.
Hope this helps..