[tommy2340]

Let me clarify more. Me and my wife has been married for a year this Saturday. Recently I was she has been getting numerous texts from her ex. I was OK with it but I know something in my gut wasn't right. So I went through the her phone. Only to find out she hasn't even told her ex she was married. This upsets me because if I would do anything like that she would flip. I confronted her once and it still hasn't stop. I don't want to end our marriage cause I love her and her little girl but this is really putting a lot of stress on me

[Devorameira]

Is the ex her daughter's father? Perhaps some of the texts are discussions about her.

Since you've told her how you feel about the texting and she still hasn't made an effort to stop, then I question what's going on here.

Have you tried being brutally honest with her? "Look, I'm really tired of you texting the ex. It really hurts my feelings and makes me think that you wished you had never married me. I don't want you doing it anymore. You're my wife and I love you!" If she doesn't stop after that, then it may be time to set her free.

[Jake2008]

If the ex boyfriend is the father of her child, I agree that them communicating is in the child's best interest. But, I don't think, from what you have said, that she is having conversations with him over the child, or if she is, that is not her main purpose.

She is lying to you, and she is lying to him.

A married woman with a child, keeping her marriage a secret, is a lie in itself. While it would be tempting to contact him and tell him yourself that she is married, the better way would be to figure out why she's lying, and just how far the lies have gone.

What reason would she have, if the ex is the father, to not tell him that she's now married.

[EngagedorNot]

You and your wife are partners in life. You should be and deserve to be the most important person in her life. If you have truly told her how these texts with her ex hurt you, regardless of whether they were innocent or seductive, she should have ended them right then and there for you. She needs to respect your feelings and make you and your feelings a priority in her life. Trust me, I know how it feels when you will do anything for your partner and they will not reciprocate for you. It hurts. I am sorry. Good Luck!

[ryandave86]

I assume that her ex is the father of her daughter. I do not see anything wrong with her texting her ex as long it is strictly about their kid and nothing else. Otherwise, I would question her feelings and as well as her loyalty to the marriage.