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jojo84 · Jan 11, 2011, 09:31 AM

My boyfriend of nearly 5 years just told me few months before we meant he was having sex with his niece (his sister's daughter).She was 14 at the time and his was 22.He told me it happened due to spliting up with his ex and that messed his life and he couldn't think straight.It happened a handful amount of times within couple of months,and she got pregnant then they thought it was wrong.I only found because the niece now 20 is depressed about her past and had let it out to members of family.I am so upset and disgust by the man I fell in love with,I can't stop picturing them on top of each others.I don't know if I can get over this.Please somebody out there help me pleasee

Alty · Jan 11, 2011, 09:38 AM

Do you have a legal question? Is that why you put this in the family law forum? Or do you just want advice, or a someone to talk to about this?

You boyfriend molested his niece. That's what it boils down to. Even if she did consent to this, she was too young, and they're related. He knew better, but did it anyway.

I don't blame you for being upset. I know that I couldn't stay with someone that molested a child. If he did it to his own niece who else would he do it to? What if he has children one day and decides that they're not off limits? I would never trust him around a child.

This is something only you can decide. Stay, or go. Knowing what you know now you don't owe him any loyalty, even after 5 years together. I'd already be out the door.

ScottGem · Jan 11, 2011, 10:44 AM

As Altenweg asked, since this was posted in the Family Law foru do you have a question on law?

I MIGHT understand it, if it happened ONCE when he was in a very vulnerable state. But the fact that I happened several times means the guy has a sickness. It may be that he can control it or it may not. He is lucky he is not in jail or with a sex offender rapsheet.

This guy is not someone you want to spend the rest of your life with,

JudyKayTee · Jan 11, 2011, 11:36 AM

He sexually assaulted a minor. Charges could still be brought against him.

If you remain with him are you prepared for his arrest and imprisonment.

Fr_Chuck · Jan 11, 2011, 12:08 PM

Yes, I don't think the statue of limitation would be over, so he can still be arrested and sent to prison as a child molestor and/or rapist. And of course your family will always see him as such. Not only did he have sex with a minor, taking advantage of her, he had sex with a close family member. There is no excuse.

If you chose to stay with him, first he needs to admit his blame and deal with his problem, and I do feel he had and most likely will still have a problem if he has never addressed it properly.

And I would not be as upset over the past, but I would more be concerned about any 12 or 13 year old family member you have he may be around.