[laplusjolie]

Well listen so I've got this guy friend and we have been friends for long. We aren't best friends but we are close friends.after some years well we started to have sex.before that nothing ever happened beetweeen us I mean we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend nor nothing. And he became my bed buddy. His personality is odd he has mood swings, he's worst that a woman when he haas them. At school I got another friend who's gay and my bed buddy is friends with him. The guy is much older and I've never caught them kissing nor nothing. But my bed buddy hangs out with him and he cares a lot if the other one is angry with him or something.if I'm angry with him he's cold and doesn't care. My bed buddy hasn't had a girlfriend in a year and at my school there are pretty girls and he says that they are pretty and all that but he never dares to talk to them or to ask them their phone number he always asks my gay friend to do that. Even once that my gay friend and him were talking to this girls my bed buddy was holding his hand but not nerviously . He was like caressing it. It was so weird. So what do you think? Should I ask him directly if he is gay? Cause its obvious that he is.but having him as a bed buddy now is really odd. What should I do?

[Fr_Chuck]

If he is nothing but a sex partner, why do you care who else he is having sex with, you are not in a relationship, merely enjoying sex with each other. He is free to have sex with who ever he wants without answering to you.

Also if he was "gay" he would not want to be having sex with you, only with another man, he is perhaps "bi" liking both.

[joypulv]

Bed buddy?? What the heck does that mean, really.

Caressing his gay friend's hand and not going out with girls seems pretty clear - he is getting through school not wanting to be openly gay it. Not everyone wants to or is clear in their minds what their preferences are. But why are we having to guess? You're his Bed Buddy, so ask him.

[talaniman]

It's a big red flag when you are having casual sex with someone that you have no clue as to the details of his sexuality. Its also a big red flag when you are having sex with someone but can't talk to them about... sex!

Not judging but he is the only one who really knows what he is and you should stop having casual sex until you talk about sex!