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bblue99 · Dec 19, 2010, 04:49 PM

Me and my ex-boyfriend are giving our relationship another chance... well, I am giving him a chance after his apologies. We'll see how it goes... but anyway...
I now REGRET telling my GOOD friends and even my mom (!) about the troubles we had... I only told them about it towards the end and after we broke up... now nothing like he cheated or abused me or anything like that. He got very sick and pushed me away, and then when we broke up he kept texting/calling me, often at late hours, saying he regretted his actions/was sorry. Everyone said things like "you don't want to date someone like that... he's acting weird by calling you at late hours like that/he sounds unstable/lock you doors, basically calling him an unstable psycho (I was NEVER afraid of him, this is from a girl who had never met him)... he's controlling/a loser (again from a girlfriend who never met him)... I fear I talked too much about what I should have kept private, but at the same time I needed guidance. I should have just talked to a therapist and kept it private. I learned my lesson, but what should I do now? I haven't told my friends or mom I'm seeing him (I'm 26). Well, I told my roommate and she didn't flip out at me. My mom didn't think he was good enough for me, so I doubt she'd be happy, but this is my life. I just fear what my close girlfriends would think... and if we ended up together and they met him, how would they act knowing everything I said. :'(

talaniman · Dec 19, 2010, 06:28 PM

Who are you trying to please, you, him, or yourself? Nobodies opinion counts but yours, and your moms any way. I guess you have learned to keep your business to yourself, right?

bblue99 · Dec 20, 2010, 06:36 AM

I'm giving my ex a 2nd chance after a weird period of him pulling away from me because he was very sick (he didn't do anything like cheating or abuse). We were apart for about a month before giving it another go. His Facebook shows he was on dating website during that time. Now he says he wants to hang out with me and see how things go. He's been very affectionate towards me, calls me often, etc... but that dating website gives me a sick feeling in my stomach. I plan to ask him about it tonight. My trust is wavering because of this.

redhed35 · Dec 20, 2010, 06:43 AM

'hang out and see how things go' is not being back together,at least in my book.

That for me means lets play around but if someone else comes along see you sweetheart!

I think your right about having that talk with him however try not to make any assumptions before then,keep an open mind and an open heart,see what he has to say,then,give yourself a chance to digest the information,and take it from there.

If you know what you want and need from him say it,if he can't give you that,perhaps its time to call it a day.