[Kiddo85]

The girl I love is leaving the country later today forever, She happens to be my best friends, should I tell her?

Well, we have been best friend for around 2 years. We aren't teenagers. She was by far the best friend I ever have/had. I feel she's my perfect match; the funniest, most interesting, loving and caring person I have ever met.

She is going to leave for-ever tomorrow. Lately I have realized that I have fallen for her. We used to hang out almost everyday after work. (Both of us are engineers). I lose track of time when I am with her, either it is just talking or dancing, or just sitting together at the beach.

I don't think she has any feelings towards me, at least I have never felt so. But now I have this very strong sense of losing her that has owned me. I feel like it's the end of everything. I am going to lose the one person who was perfect for me. And I can't tell her this because I don't want to ruin my friendship with her at the very last moment.

A part of me wants her to leave happily, the other part forces me to tell her how I feel about her. But then I think that telling her would be a very selfish act.
I know this for a fact that she can't stay. That's impossible.

Please help me out here. Recommend me what to do.. I am really lost here.. will be really really grateful!

[joypulv]

Of course you tell! Imagine finding out that she actually does feel the same way! Why do people always wait for the other person to speak?
It's possible to tell her you love her without all the pain showing.
Give her a huge hug, whisper 'I am so in love with you; let me know if you ever feel the same,' and let her go. She may be doing a lot of thinking about it while she is gone. Forever is never forever unless someone dies.

[Devorameira]

I'd normally tell a person not to tell as it may ruin the friendship that they have, but this is a little different situation.

What's it really going to hurt for you to tell her that you care about her? She's leaving either way, but at least you'll know whether you want to keep in close contact.

[I wish]

I would say stick with the friendship, it's a lot to dump onto her by telling her that you love her the day before she leaves or even the day she leaves.

I suggest that you try to keep in touch with her while she's away. Stay friends. If you ever get the chance to live in the same city again, then maybe reconsider your romantic feelings for her.

[Winnebago1025]

Honestly you need to tell her just so you don't wonder what if. Hey you might get the response you desire, just be sure not to lie to yourself. Asses the situation for what it is, and be prepared for an answer you might not want to hear. Good lick

[Zoeynoey]

I know this is a little late but if you tell her it's not going to hurt her so I'd tell her and if you love something let it go if it loves you it'll come back

[joypulv]

(Winnebago and Zoeynoey... yes, it's been 7 months, and the odds of the person who asked this even seeing your replies is very small.)