[thatguylol]

Hi there. I've never been on this forum but I really have a question I can't figure out myself. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 months now and I'm starting to worry that our relationship is getting boring. She always used to want to do things, but now she tells me that she "isnt in the mood to do things" and would rather play with her computer and wii than go do things with me! I know she doesn't actually tell me that, but I can tell that's what she wants. She knows that we are going out though, and we probably do something about twice a week. I don't want to break up with her, because I don't think that would help at all, so please don't tell me that. I need some help on how to get her to want to do things. It is very cold by me so there isn't much to do, but it just recently snowed. Other than that, I am honestly willing to do anything to spend time with her. What should I do to get her to want to do more? She really doesn't do things with her friends either, which is weird in my opinion, but I overlook it. How do I get her to get off the computer and have some fun? Or what are some fun couple ideas for us?

[Blackula]

I suggest telling her what you need out of the relationship and that the way things are isn't enough for you. If she is choosing the computer over you then something is definitely wrong with your relationship. For example, I am on this site because I am sick and trying to avoid anything productive. If my wife wanted to watch a movie instead, I'd do it in an instant.

[ironhide262]

You have been going out with your girlfriend for only 2 months and you are picking up a pattern that you don't relly like. Since - she "isnt in the mood to do things"- you only have 2 choices here.
1. Tell her how you feel... that you want to go out and spend time with her doing other things. Now the ball is in her court and she can decide what to do next. You can't just change a person . There's no magical method that will make her go out more. If it is her nature to spend most of her days inside and alone then you have to just accept that that's the way she is.

2. I know... not what you want to hear but, break up and find a girl that likes to go out and do things. There can be a lot of different explainations about her attitude. However, you have only been dating for 2 months. If she does change after your talk then great! However, you also wrote that she doesn't go out and do things with her friend either- another big flag there!

[angelbaby186]

I don't know but to me if she won't hang with you or her frineds an always on the comp an stuff maybe she's depressed not sure what it could be that you got to find out but maybe I don't know try renting movies staying in an cuddling an slowly asking her what's up...
It sounds like she's pushing everone away witch is apart of depression
I know because I had it for 5 years you can't help her with it though she can only help her self but I could be wrong also
Or lay a trap it maybe mean but I don't know
Tell her you want to buy her a new game but she has to go with her buy her it but take her to the beach or movie or dinner

[talaniman]

She is who she is, and seems to be a home body who has her own interests. Maybe you are not use to that but, after only two months of dating you don't know each other that well.

The challenge is can you talk honestly, and compromise with each other, and make adjustments to satisfy you both. If you can't, then what's the point of dating each other?

Try talking because right now it seems that she is happy with seeing you twice a week. If you want more, tell her! Try bowling and darts, for some indoor couples fun. Plan ahead with some activities, or ask what she would like to try.

Some people don't want to just hang out, for the sake of hanging out.

[Blackula]

Personally, I always take psychological advice from people who can't spell. "witch is apart of depression " Freud himself couldn't have said it better!