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    Shino Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 6, 2010, 10:12 AM
    A new married relationship
    Hi, I'm just married 2 months ago. Just a very short period 2 months. I started feel sad, angry and hopeless with this new relationship.Recently, I realize that he no more love me. He love his family more than me, he love his niece more than me, much more than me... we always argue just because of his niece. His niece really like a princess in the house, everybody need to listen to her. Even a small matter like dinner where should we sit also she are the one who make the decision. I try very hard to accept her and try to make friend with her. Finally, I found out that she did not treat me as a family members. I feel heart break for this. I just like a maid in this family, everyday I need to worry about my business which getting worse and worse right now, beside I keep on tired to wash the whole family clothes till late at night. I think they also expect me can do more houseworks. But I reject to do it. I don't know that this relationship is love or just take me home to work and works?
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    Nov 6, 2010, 12:18 PM

    Is this by chance an arranged marriage? Then you are the queen of your kings household, so why have you not asserted yourself as such?? Maybe he expects you to be submissive to him, but does your culture mean this extends to the rest of the family. Respect yes, submission I highly doubt it. Be a good wife, but also be a QUEEN.
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    Nov 8, 2010, 04:16 PM

    I would not let a child tell me where I may or may not sit for my dinner. If anyone makes a comment about this,just advise that you are a grown adult woman and don't feel you need to have a child tell you where to you may have your dinner. Also express that you are sure that no one in the family would deliberately make you feel like less then an full member of this family you have married into. If they respond in anger, advise them how your family would be insulted that their daughter is being treated in with such dis-respect.
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    Nov 27, 2010, 08:29 AM
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    U know, they all too love this little princess till everybody going to listen to this princess. Sometime she also hit my father in law which I really feel uncomfortable. I hate about she do know what is respected.

    Comment on talaniman's post
    It's not an arrangement married. Just change everything after the marriage.

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